#relationship thoughts

I'm gonna say it. I adore Yasammy, and truly hope it works out next season. But GOOD for Sammy standing up for herself! Yaz was not getting it at all, not hearing Sammy, not seeing her emotional struggle. Yaz didn't try at all S1-S3 to consider Sammy's feelings/side over their relationship issues (and the family + Brooklynn topics just were the last straw).

S1 was very focused on Yaz's recovery "look I'm better & I'm proving it by staring down dinosaurs and protecting Sammy" (I'm not downplaying this; it's great!) and Sammy recognized it multiple times. Yaz really focused the "we're a team" aspect, true, but this didn't mean she was addressing Sammy's needs.

S2 Yaz was way more physical with Sammy (also into S3) which gives off vibes that she thought they had reconciled their issues thanks to her, possibly even assuming Sammy's happy-go-lucky love automatically forgave her for 'leaving to get better'. We all know Yaz is the physically-driven one & Sammy emotionally-driven. Yaz saw (in retrospect S3) how much Sammy connected with their host family, but never acknowledged why Sammy was so happy there; instead stating that if Sammy really missed that connection, she should just make amends with her family, completely missing the point that Sammy was so happy cuz she has underlying grief.

S3 finally gave ample opportunities to address Sammy & her family+camp fam feelings (at least 4x) where all Yaz had to do was allow them to get emotionally deep, to not just hear Sammy's concerns, but ask why she felt that way, & actually acknowledge that she hurt Sammy. Yaz needed to realize that every time Sammy said she's feeling betrayed by Brooklynn (ie. Leaving without explanation, not asking for help when she needed it, and not standing by them while they are hurt), it directly paralleled her feeling betrayed by Yaz. Yaz then doubling down on not thinking to meet Sammy's emotional needs & instead calling her a coward was heartbreaking.

Now, I honestly believe that Yaz 100% 1. thought they were good, 2. thought Sammy's focus was on Brooklynn and did not see it as a parallel toward their relationship, and 3. she wasn't told the whole story behind Sammy's family abandoning her cuz Sammy was also not a good communicator during this ordeal.