#readiness

There are two things we should always be 1. raw and 2. ready. When you are raw, you are always ready and when you are ready you usually realize that you are raw. Waiting for perfection is not an answer, one cannot say "I will be ready when I am perfect" because then you will never be ready, rather one must say "I am raw and I am ready just like this right now, how and who I am.

“Doing something we don’t really want to, don’t feel able to handle or aren’t ready for is usually going to feel way worse than holding back on something we want to do and do feel ready for. So, it’s always sound for all of us, when there is a person who needs things slower, to lead with where they’re at, and good partners will always be down with that. If someone really feels that moving faster is something they need and a slower pace is just not working for them, they always have the option of choosing to be with a different partner who is where they’re at. Not everyone we want to have a sexual relationship with will be a good fit, and that’s just something everyone needs to accept and not try to force. Not all sexual or romantic⁠ partners will be compatible.”