#ramdhankareem

As humans who live in the technology era, social media is one way to 'meet' other people from another place. We also get access easily than before, every information will come to us with less energy. Just scroll up and down on social media to see the world.

Talking about social media, some of us definitely have addicted to stories/feeds on that. I said because I have experienced it. I could not far from my smartphone and I always opened my Instagram or Twitter. Based on my screen time, every day I always opened them more than 4 hours per day.

The big difference I've ever felt is FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). Not relieved if I do not open my Instagram or Twitter for 30 minutes. Then, I felt more anxious because too many compared myself success with others and unfortunately it made me less productive. And about 4 months I never touch my research once because of that.

I Found The Solutions!

I had to decide this because I need more time to heal it until I found tips & tricks about dealing with ourselves. I started reading many articles, watched some videos on youtube, followed influencers who have the same problem as me, and read more books about healing and dealing with myself. I started to learn how to control myself.

I've found a good book, "Filosofi Teras" by Henry Manampiring. "Filosofi Teras" means Stoicism Philosophy. I really like this philosophy because it is applicable, even it's not easy for me, lol. This philosophy has taught us what are things under our control vs can not control.

I do meditation almost every day. Changing routine activity is very hard, but it's not impossible. Meditation makes me more relax and helps me find my true self. It is very helpful too to make your mental health better.

Journaling is the best way to release my stress and overthinking. Anything that I think and feel, just write it down. Sometimes if I feel very anxious or stress, I wrote until 4 pages. It's very helpful when you need a listener but doesn't know to whom you have to talk.

Men Sana in Corpore Sano - a healthy mind in a healthy body. I try to live better and healthy because when you're sick, you'll less productive. It's not about appearance-physical-body but also inside your body which affects your mind, called hormone. Also mental, social, and spiritual health of course. Eat well, sleep well, etc.

Upgrade your skill and knowledge. It's not about a lesson in your college, but it's about your skill and your interest. I want to learn deeply about writing because I really love writing (from journaling) so I want to share my experience with other people. Yeah, at least I want to write on my blog or Instagram but I don't have any courage to share my writing. But after got a newsletter from Mas Budi Tanrim, Matt d'Avella, my friend gave me support, and watch/read some self-improvement I think I should start writing again. I joined some courses with writing topics, such as content writing, copywriting, UX writing, and SEO. I searched for my convenience to be a T-shape expert, but I have to be a generalist first, haven't I?

Networking with experienced people. I could follow the speaker and make a contact with them. Because I am looking for my role model in my career, of course, I need their helping and sharing more. For the first time of course I was afraid, how if I make a mistake and they will block me, etc. But if you never try, you will never know, right?

The most important thing you should do is NEVER COMPARING YOURSELF. Enjoy your ups-and-down-live journey. Be grateful for everything you have today even though you dislike it because whatever God gives to you is the best choice. Find your-true-self and fulfill your heart with love and gratitude because God is always inside your heart 😇

Health is not about physical appearance but also what things inside you and your relation. It's okay not to be okay. Take a rest but don't too long (like me 😢) then get up again even doubting you.