listen to me, my dear questioning flowers...
> if you find yourself agonizing over whether or not you're straight...
> if you connect significantly with the label you're questioning...
> if the notion of being straight is actively upsetting or disappointing...
> if you constantly try to test yourself on your attractions, randomly picking people to stare at and see if you're into...
> if you question your identity for months, years, or more...
> if the opposite sex is just "fine" or "boring" or "i guess?" ...
> if you're interested in lgbt people / content / blogs / books / sites / etc., for your own self not for ally points or cishet curiosity...
> if you get excited & happy when you see visibly queer people...
> if you're drawn to gay or gay-adjacent things in a way you can't quite explain...
> if you have always had vague suspicions...
> if you feel a profound (not shallow/jokey/fetishised) desire to be gay...
> if you're reading this post because you're questioning and you are caught in an agony of indecision unable to settle in the straight identity, yet afraid to affirm yourself as lgbt, terrified of the "permanency" or "ramifications" of being gay...
...you are almost certainly gay (or bi, etc.).
full stop.
"but even if?" yes.
"but I can't be certain..." it doesn't matter
"but what about - " no. it doesn't matter.
"what if I - ?" no.
"but...really?" yes. yes. yes. you are. you are queer enough. there is a place in the lgbt community for you. you are one of us. we are here for you. we love you. you are so brave, so strong, and so incredibly queer - even if you are afraid to affirm that. i will affirm it for you. you are queer. it's okay. you can stop wondering.
and if you read all of this post...and if you read the above paragraph with relief/happiness/hope/gratitude/confidence...you are almost undeniably one of us.
welcome. â€
