#questioning lgbt

Abraham Lincoln said that life is that which goes away on between the time you clock in and clock out.

being secure in knowing that is so important to me due to my long history of questioning my identity and trying to figure out if i was bi or gay.

i somehow thought that i would be ‘missing out’ on not being with a guy.

Agender is considered the same as/synonymous to terms like genderblank, genderfree, genderless, gendervoid, non-gendered, ungendered, and null gender  

Neutrois, genderless, null gender and neutral gender are used interchangeably, but are sometimes differentiated by the emphasis of lacking or having neutral gender.

E.g. Null gender / Genderless are similar, but are unlike Neutrois/Neutral gender because the definitions strongly lean towards lacking gender completely

E.g. Neutrois / Neutral gender are considered interchangable, but are different from Null/genderless because their definitions strong implications of having a neutral gender (usually somewhere between, or off the spectrum of boy and girl) Neutrois gender wiki link

!! important !! These labels are used casually by those under the agender label!!! So if you feel neutral but like a term emphasizing the lack of gender go for it! it's up to you!! Try it out!!! Pick what's comfortable!! Trust your gut!!

Null gender

(Coined by dieselwolfe) (?)

All have links to the 3 wiki's/websites I was able find information in..

"... feels their gender does not include aspects of being a male or aspects of being a female. There is sometimes a strong emphasis on the rejection of gender stereotypes concerning behavior and traits. Null-Gendered people sometimes like to just describe their gender as being just me implying an emphasis on the fact that specific gender categorizations are unneccesary considering the complexity of people and their behaviors."

"It may also be associated with genderlessness, and shares many similarities with agender - people who consider themselves neutrally gendered or genderless, but some may identify as both..." (Definition also applied to Neutrois)

"An I don’t want a label because labels don’t fit but they help shut people up sometimes, so here have a label' gender label." (under tab 'Lists of kinds of Agender identities")

Agender/Null gender Experience

Here is a link to a Reddit of people talking about their experiences and getting philosophical about gender.

(mentions gender presentation vs. gender identity, misogyny, and the pointlessness of boy/girl classification)

Quotes from the reddit that are possibly relevant about being Agender and the Gender journey:

"Basically, it's a preference. If someone feels the need to identify themselves as agender, then they're agender." - reddit user

"He says that having no strong perception of one's gender is just a 'symptom' of being cisgender, i.e., only people who are born into the wrong gender develop a strong perception of their gender

My wife is cis and feels strongly feminine. Tada: counterexample, disproven.

Honestly, I think there's a semi-easy answer to the overall question. Imagine that you wake up tomorrow and your body has changed gender. What's your first thought?" - reddit user

"I'm more of a masculine person, but I feel uncomfortable when I'm implicated as a man, or when I have to choose between "male" or "female" (I know that I am certainly not female, as well), or when I'm cornered into calling myself a man.

To me, it all just seems arbitrary. I don't really have a stake in being male, or being female, or being any gender, really, so I decided that perhaps I could best describe myself as agender and leave it at that." - reddit user

!! Reminder !! Just because you may not resonate with these folk's perspective 100% does not mean you do not got fit with the label!!! This is just to give perspective, don't stress over comparing your experience to theirs!!! Trust yourself!!!

A quick Thank you to @raavenb2619, and every other gender questioning blog, for their questioning-agender tag! The tag helped me find these resources which helped me grow comfortable with this label!!

Idk if I'm completely comfortable with this one yet, but thank you for giving me the chance to find out.