#pseudofeminism

It seems like most Indians, especially men, have got the idea of feminists confused with pseudofeminists/feminazis. I've noticed that every time a woman brings up her problems, there are a hoard of Indian men retaliating with the same old, "Men have problems, too!" or simply saying that men and women can never be same, because that's their "culture".

Feminism, by definition, is a movement that stands for equality amongst both genders. It includes all aspects and choices one can think of, and in theory, shouldn't threaten anybody. However, we often see people protesting against it, trying to make feminists seem like bad people who're just man haters. I even saw an article regarding a lawyer who claimed to be a 'menimist', because she claimed to stand for men and their problems. People were applauding her, sending praises her way because apparently feminism is cancer, but this so called menimism isn't.

It's as simple as this: if you are a decent human being, you'll agree with wanting equality between both genders. Say, if my apple has a worm, you don't get to come up to me and claim I talk about your orange in that particular instance. You know why? Because at that point, we're focusing on the apple, not the orange. That's not to say your orange isn't important, but importance is given to a subject that's more necessary to talk about at hand. As women, when we try to bring light to our problems, it's insulting when men butt into the conversations and try to drive the attention away from us and to themselves. Nobody is saying men don't have problems; in fact, we encourage you to talk about it so we can end this toxic masculinity. But there are some men who are disrespectful and so far gone up the disgusting concept of patriarchy that they refuse to believe anyone can hold more problems than them, and them alone.

In India, women are expected to leave their house and move in with their husband's family, they are expected to change their last name, sacrifice their careers to look after their in-laws, have the society shame them if they seek out help from abuse, cheating, etc. Girls can't even take a walk out in "revealing" clothes (doesn't matter if the skin shown is merely their shoulders) without the fear of being catcalled and/or raped.

Be empathetic. We suffer, too. We don't want you to be inferior to us, that's not a real feminist. Don't confuse us with pseudofeminists. We want you to view us as an equal, as an individual human being with their own rights and personality.

- James Bond producers this week on why they’ll never cast a woman for the role. 

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#  feminism is the belief in full social, economic, and political equality for women.

# Pseudo Feminism relates to women's supremacy and men's hatred.

no gender is superior, all should be treated equally 

# If true feminism were followed, then all of the victims should be treated equally. Victims would cease to be male or female but only victims of abuse. But this is sadly not the case.

#  A person that claims to be a feminist yet ignores the main point of feminism, equality.

feminism (n) : the belief that women should have equal rights and opportunities as men.

'Feminism' the word leading to a lot of controversies now a days, and apart from the controversies, the most confused word. Over the years the actual meaning of the word is misinterpreted, as benefits of women, losing it's original essence "equality".

Moving around with our lives, working, travelling, we come across many circumstances where in we feel the need of amendments even in small things, on the course of equality. Coming across a lot of things, as we have a lot of social exposure being the 'z' generation, there's a newer term dwelling as 'pseudo feminism', it cannot be defined in anyway as it is compromised every now and then as per the benefits of a women are concerned, without considering the consequences. Screaming, taking everything on social media with slamming people without basis, these things aren't feminist.

The word will have it's real gist when we really understand equality, as in if we want equal payment as men we also need no reservations only then there will come the word equal opportunities. If we believe we are stronger and as good as a man what's the need of reservations in public transportation, if we don't want people to judge us, why do we judge men as pervs and generalise them. Feminism lies in empowerment of women, supporting a fellow human being irrespective of gender. It never is about dominance of women over men, or hating men, or finding flaws in men's ways of doing things just for the sake of proving that women are always right.

It's the time that rather than feminism and menisim we need to come with a new concept of "humanism". Being a house maker, or helping fellow male, or standing against a female who has done something not acceptable in any way doesn't make you less of a feminist. We need to learn the idea of " live and let live" in peace. Afterall that's how system functions. There lies the zest of being a human, a women, in spreading sissiness, love , peace, righteousness, raising your voice for the unethical. Afterall women are important and men too; we matter so as all other lives matter too!

India is majorly patriarchal in nature. Culturally, we respect women and our myths teach us about the Great Wars that happened when a woman is disrespected. Unlike the West, which is now partially patriarchal, Indian women in workforce, education, and in terms of literacy rates have very low numbers. Indian woman, when married is considered to take care of the family and serve their needs, while the man typically earns. This has been changing and now we see many women enter workforce in STEM fields, though the admissions of women into these are less than 30%. Women are still expected to take care of the domestic chores, despite them having full time jobs. 

We’ve seen Feminism on the rise in India. Though the gist is pretty clear, we derive it from the Western and a lot of us are confused as to what we want now. In the process of identifying our position in society and opening up the minds to understand this newfound system, we are losing ourselves. In the process of proving that we are no less than men, some of us are becoming men and often hating them. Psuedo-feminism is what occupies the brains of many of the women we find speaking up in the name of “Feminism”. They rant about mansplaining, and objectification, slut shaming etc, while the real problem lies in the most rural areas where women don’t understand the importance of proper sanitation or sanitary pads. We have problem of low literacy rate among women especially in the rural areas. We need women empowerment, we need the literacy gap to reduce, because every child has a right to education,to learn, to grow freely. Thinking about the problem of wage gap, we should not complain there is no equality in workforce, rather try to understand the gender gap in education system. And clearly Empowerment does the job here.