#proselfshipblr

You never have to be ashamed of your F/O.

Yes, even if they're horrific. Even if they're morally bankrupt and genuinely deplorable and evil.

Yes, even if they're from media people consider "slop".

Yes, even if they're from media people consider "cringe".

Yes, even if they're very much unconventionally attractive.

Yes, even if they're obscure, niche, sourced from a meme, etc.

Yes, even if they're from "gooner" media.

You are always welcome in the community.

Regardless of where your F/O is sourced, who they are, and what their presence in their story (or lack thereof) is like. Your feelings, your choices, they are your own- your relationship with your F/O is special and no one can break the bond you have with them.

Shed your fear, your anxiety, your shame: be proud of loving your F/O, they'd want you to be.

🍒 Imagine your f/o coming to see you and seeing the merch you have of them- 🍓 Imagine them first seeing you wearing a shirt/hoodie with them on it- 🍒 Imagine them finding the drawings you’ve made of them-

🍓 Imagie them quietly reading the fanfics you’ve saved and written about them-

🍒 Are you imagining? Now imagine finding their collection of pictures of you, figures they’ve had commissioned, drawings they’ve tried to keep in a drawer somewhere, and don’t even get them started on the fanfics they totally weren’t writing-

It's okay to find it hard to put your adoration for your F/O into words.

It's fine to not talk about your F/O much, maybe because you have language restrictions, or struggle to type or speak, or perhaps because you simply don't know what to say, or even that your relationship feels so normal you don't need to gush.

While it's sweet and amazing many can burst into near song about their love for their F/Os, selfshippers who can't find that same energy don't love their F/Os less. The love is the same, just channeled differently, and everyone deserves to be included.

Tw for shipcest/incest

Selfshippers who have OCD, you do love your F/Os.

You do still want them, even if you don't feel a spark at this moment.

You do still love them, even if you keep repeating evaluations of how you feel for them.

You do still deserve them, even if you're worrying that you don't love them anymore. Even if you don't feel how you normally do, if you felt like that at all.

Your brain is lying to you, it's no different than all the other times. It will pass, and your F/O will always be there.

Much, much love to the sex-repulsed selfshippers among us! But I want to give a special shout out to the romance-repulsed.

Selfshipping is seen as such a romance-heavy thing, it can be difficult to decouple it with romance as a whole- but even though it's tough to navigate these spaces, you deserve to be here just as much as any romance-favorable selfshipper.

Your selfship, even if it's a purely sexual one, a queerplatonic one, or anything out of the traditional sphere of romance, is still as valid of a selfship as any other.

Again, you deserve to be here. You deserve to express how you feel for your F/O, and you deserve to be able to find more posts and content inclusive of you.

"There's better authors out there so why even bother wasting so much time writing for my F/O?"

"My edits of my F/O won't ever be as good as (other person)."

"I can't ever prove how much I love my F/O because my art/writing/editing isn't as good as others.."

Don't make me tap the sign:

Reblog with a picture of your F/O, what thing(s) you like the most about them, and your favorite taste sensation (sweet, spicy, salty, sour, etc) to be assigned a random food that I think fits them!