having no gender or body dysphoria in any way, shape, or form but trying to transition socially, legally medically, or physically is like going to the optometrist & asking for high prescription glasses even though you have twenty twenty vision & you'll get migraines, dizziness, & poor vison (the very thing glasses are supposed to correct) except it's not so easy to just take the glasses off because the symptoms will persist & might never go away & you make the optometrists & anyone who heard about your stupid decision doubt anyone with glasses.

[TW: q*eer slur. May not be a big deal to some but some people are seriously not okay with that so putting it anyway]

Okay so I know no one really cares but here’s my thing about MOGAI and microidentities. I used to identify as genderqueer when I was roughly 12/13. I didn’t run into the truscum/tucute discourse until 2018. I didn’t even know there was a word for what I was feeling until 2018. Back in like 2014/2015, I just figured that if you knew, you knew. That something would feel off and going by a different label would be a better fit. I’d never seen anyone say gender was a choice. Actually, i defended my identity as genderqueer/genderfluid purely because I knew/figured that you can’t choose your gender. It’s just something you are. I technically knew you need dysphoria, but I didn’t even know dysphoria was a damn word.

I was lucky. I never ran into the deeper MOGAI community. I knew a few things, but I’ve seen more MOGAI identities in the past 6 months than I ever did when I was younger. I had the ability to figure myself out and eventually realize that I’m just a trans guy. I didn’t fall into the downward spiral of MOGAI.

Here’s the thing though:

If I had known about all those microidentities and the tucute movement, it would have left me vulnerable, confused, and would have prolonged my questioning phase unnecessarily.

But man, if I’d seen the truscum stuff earlier? Things would have been so much easier. I would know exactly what I was really experiencing. I wouldn’t constantly question whether I have dysphoria because I’m feminine; my past in MOGAI still haunts me because I used to identify with an identity that solely relied on strict gender roles, so even though I have a binary identity now, it still causes me problems. Transmeds don’t make me question my validity. TUCUTES DO.

I thought everyone knew you need dysphoria to be trans, even if I didn’t know there was a specific word for it. Even for MOGAI identities, I knew you needed dysphoria, I just didn’t fully understand dysphoria as a concept.

Transmeds have educated me more on what I need to know than tucutes ever did. And that’s not just looking at opinion bias; I didn’t know the effects of HRT and wanted to start it anyway, not even fully knowing for sure whether or not I had dysphoria. I didn’t know the success rate of phalloplasty. I didn’t fully understand the permanence of starting testosterone. I didn’t know the difference between body dysphoria and dysmorphia entirely before that (if I had known, it would have made me realize I was trans so much sooner because I always confused it with dysmorphia). If my parents had let me, I could have potentially given myself induced dysphoria because I didn’t know enough to know if I was actually dysphoric. Even though I am trans, I didn’t know for sure at the time. And that could have had so many bad repercussions.

I understand wanting to be nice and accepting towards everyone. As someone who’s always been too nice for my own good and wanted desperately to fit in, I understand completely. But there are limits for a reason. If you try too hard not to hurt anyone, you end up hurting other people without even trying. I know making people feel bad feels horrible. But sometimes it’s necessary. Even if it feels awful. Trust me, I don’t take joy in this. Actually, I feel a specific type of awful because I used to be one of you. I know how a lot of you feel. I understand.

(Insulting argument against truscum/transmeds)

{This is probably going to be an ongoing list but oh well}

Pro:

Pro-Choice

Pro-Military

Pro-Transmedicalism

Pro-NB (Nonbinary)

Pro-Gun Control

Pro-LGBT

Pro-Vaccines

Pro-Health

Pro-Science

Pro-Religious Freedom

Pro-”CG/LRE”/Age Regression

Anti:

Anti-”Pro-Life”

Anti-War

Anti-Racism

Anti-Sexism

Anti-Tucute

Anti-Nazis

Anti-White Supremacy

Anti-MAPs/NOMAPs/SOMAPs/Pedophiles

Anti-Radical Feminism

Anti-ACAB (All Cops Are Bad)

Anti-BlueLivesMatter

Anti-Cisphobia

Anti-Bullying

Anti-DDLG/DDLB/MDLB/MDLG/CGL (the kink)

Anti-Abuse

Anti-Radicalism (yes, even for the viewpoints I agree with; radicals are annoying in just about every movement tbh)

Anti-SJW

Anti-TERF

Anti-RMM (Radical Misogynist and Misandrist)

Anti-Gun BAN

Anti-Self Diagnosis (unless you’re planning on seeing a doctor but even then, please actually speak to a damn doctor)

Anti-Ableism

I highkey hate the whole ‘owo you have more privilege than me so you don’t get a say in things’ and bonus points if I actually don’t.

Like. I’m white in a lower middle class family. I’m (mostly) able bodied, and English is my first language. These things give me privilege, but don’t save me from everything because that’s not how the damn world works.

What DOESN’T make me privileged is being a transgender guy and liking men. Newsflash, I get shit from literally all sides. Bi erasure from everyone around me, homophobes from both sides (ie people who think I’m a girl acting homophobic because I like girls and people who know I’m a guy acting homophobic because I like men), transphobes from virtually all sides, biphobia from virtually all sides, and the constant threat of violence because I live in an area that happens to be very transphobic and homophobic. Legit every damn side hates my existence and some people would be willing to threaten my damn life because of it. (and as of late has started to kick up)