#potdate

Pretty much had dinner and went to the theatre after! Been chatting with this guy on Bumble.

So basically, I’m not “goals” or “experienced sugar”, but here’s how the evening went:

My ride (a guy friend I met from college offered to be my chauffeur that night) dropped me off at the restaurant and when I got there, there was a bag sitting by my seat that said “Nice to meet you!”. Inside of it was a cake from my favorite bakery! then he pulled out a bigger bag full of other sweets and said either I could take my pick, or take the entire thing. Of course I opted for the entire thing. Quickly learned that it DEFINITELY DOESN’T HURT to take the tips on here from experienced sugars about telling your POT that you would like a gift on the first date. 

I expressed to him my love of high end international desserts in my messages so this was an okay gift. Next time I should say I love Louis Vuitton instead LMAO

Then after dinner we went to the theatre for classical music.

Another tip I’ve heard is that it’s best to make your POT dates short, but he didn’t seem like a serial killer and I actually REALLY enjoy the symphony so I went.  He bought more sweets and drinks at the theatre.

He wants to know what I expect of him and how our relationship will be ASAP. He knows I want to travel, but we still gotta discuss allowance/$$$.

We’re meeting again very soon to discuss $$$$$ but HIGHKEY I should’ve discussed it on this date, OR before the date. (I’ve heard the second date is fine to discuss this too, but I’m ready for cash because that’s the whole point of this ahhhhh) I’m learning as I go. But as far as safety goes, and screening, I currently have his entire name and work place at my disposal. He doesn’t seem crazy. And I also had my ride, fake name and shit planned with safety down on point.

Going on the official date on Saturday. Got him to send me transportation money to travel to him. Heading to La Bibloteca in nyc, so this is gonna be exciting!

My goal is to start out getting 300$ per meet and build up from there. Hopefully all goes well!

I’d taken a break for a year to focus on studies, now I was ready to get back into the bowl. I was feeling optimistic. I thought why not use this date to get back into practise.

It was bad. The first thing he did was complain about the noise in the restaurant he had picked, he then complained about where we had been seated. He complained about where the bread plate was placed and how the waiter poured the wine, he even took the damn bottle and showed him how it should be done. He’d called himself a gentleman, yeah right. The whole date was him complaining about everything. I felt so embarrassed that I had to apologise to the waiter when he left to the restroom.

This guy was a mess and from the stories he told me, he sounded flakey af. From leaving his stuff in another country to some weird legal battles he’s going through. I decided to make the most of it, finished my wine and ordered a big dessert for the train home and told him I had to leave. 

There was no way I could put up with that behaviour. I imagined that would be how he would treat his sb’s too.