#poly ace

It would probably only be for people 21+ (maybe 18+ depending on how many people are interested).

It would also probably be a small chat (no more than 50 ish).

Basically it would just be a community to meet other polyam aros and aces.

It looks like refining-the-scope might be a blog you’d like, but I’m not seeing other blogs that fit what you’re looking for. However, that doesn’t mean they don’t exist. I’d recommend reaching out to goodpositivitylgbt and seeing if they can recommend anything. 

When you’re 16, you’re mostly surrounded by other teenagers. Teenagers are not a demographic famous for their sensitivity to the differences of others, or for making each other feel accepted. Don’t base your assumptions about how society works on what you see in your peers!

There are as many ways to express and experience sexuality and relationships as there are people. You have grown up in a world saturated by stories of straight, sexually-inclined romances - but that’s the media’s problem, not yours. Again, don’t base your assumptions about “society” based on what you’ve seen so far. As you get older, you’ll find that the real world includes all sorts of people looking for all sorts of partners, and you can find a place to be accepted and understood no matter what.

Here are some resources about polyamory and asexuality:

The Big Fat Polyamorous Asexual Post

Asexuality & Polyamory

Nonsexual Polyamory

Polyamory: Many kinds of love

You can identify in whatever way makes the most sense to you! When it comes to making sure other people understand, there’s no linguistic silver bullet - you may need to explain and clarify what you mean, and people may still have misconceptions or questions. That’s part of the territory sometimes. Once you’ve had the conversation a few times, you get pretty good at anticipating questions, explaining things in broad strokes, and knowing when to avoid the topic if you don’t have the energy to give someone an education.