#peer advice

29.03.23

Thanks so much Delaney for writing notes for me 😊 

Board game on a pedestal – more about observing than playing. Is it your intention to make it unplayable?

More observational. Think about different modes of presentation and how it affects the engagement of the viewer e.g. Board Game in a gallery

Control of the gallery space – it controls (to a certain extent) how we interact with things.

Think about the heights of the plinth in relation to each other- The roles/dynamics

Hierarchy of the plinths – throws the equilibrium out.

Asymmetry of power! Things to reflect this/ other aspects of the roles and dynamics through presentation.

How are the roles assigned? By chance? To think about in relation to your instructions. Peoples choice of which character to play already reflects aspects of their inner selves.

Interesting note- For the watcher there is a face in the back.

Agency- Role play as means by which we take up something.

Reinforce archetypes – people’s character/our own character. Does the game destabilise our ways of thinking about people/selves?

How people use the games indicates the self.

Concept of the boardgame is intense and can bring out the worst in people.

FATE/FORTUNE

Patterns in the boardgame e.g., playing again for long enough will reveal playing patterns in the game – to think about.

Raw Material – Form/Colour as hierarchy

Symbolism of red is noted.

Prototype – work currently seems like a prototype. Mostly in relation to the size of the plinth/board game.  

Painting the figures to make their roles clearer.

White reinforces the black/red

Noel noted the box is reminiscent of a box of chocolates. Think about the opening of a box and how that engages the viewer.

Scale of the game.

Possibility - Different ways to change the character during playing. Ability to change roles during playing. Play on power dynamics, using this as a drive to become the aggressor?

Using scale to enhance the effect…on a table or larger?

Illusion of practicality

Playing the game has an emotionally driven engagement. Observing the games is a visually driven engagement.

Stanford Prison Experiment

Materiality of resin/ 3D print – want to play but not touch.

My personal notes during the session (mostly covered by Delaney too):

The power of asymmetry- why use an equilateral triangle to represent an imbalanced hierarchy?

Assigning characters- how?

Agency of characters and players within roleplay- aggression vs submission

Following stereotypical roles- enhancing the player’s personalities through the character they play

Fortune and fate- fortune mapping to fate

Eyes are drawn to the colour- hierarchy with colour- red gives an emotive element

White 3D prints: prototype- frozen in production stage

Dial up aesthetics- camp aesthetics

3D print- statue quality: remove the cards from the top of the plinth and place it in front

Lid- looks like chocolate box (probably not a good thing)

Scale is intimate- a prototype scale- scaling up would make it more intimidating

Changing roles- so characters aren’t fated to their role. Gives players more drive because they can ‘upgrade’ by changing roles (changing the hats)

Whoever loses in combat has to give over their head to the winning player- looting and attaining possessions as an incentive to continue the game. Thanks Phong for the awesome suggestion

Here’s 5 things you should know.

Disclaimer: I am not a licensed psychotherapist, counselor, or medical professional. The following advice is shared from the perspective/background of a peer; as someone who has been in therapy on-and-off since I was 15. None of the following advice should be taken in lieu of advice by the actual aforementioned professionals.

1. It’s okay to need help. It’s okay to ask for it.

2. Psychotherapy is like physiotherapy - at times (especially in the beginning) it will leave you feeling exhausted, drained, and raw. But it will help you become a stronger, healthier person.

3. Healing is a process. Improving your mental health is a process. That process is not always linear.

4. Your therapist is your therapist - not a best friend, family member, or someone to have a romantic and/or physical relationship with.

This can be tough to keep straight in our heads because therapy requires a certain amount of emotional availability and vulnerability that we don’t typically allow outside of those types of relationships. If you have questions or concerns about that - bring that up with them during your next/first session.

5. Your life and your health are your responsibility, no one else’s.

I understand if you’re exhausted, if all you want to just hand your problems and pain over to someone else to deal with. If even the idea of trying to actually swim is overwhelming when it feels like it’s taking all of your energy and strength to keep your head above water.

  I received a message via social media recently. The message read, “Hi Lorrie, my name is Tina. I’m an aspiring fashion stylist. I read your profile and Googled you discovering that you have been working in the industry for quite some time. I am writing to ask if you would mind if we could speak at your convenience so that I can ask you some…

Alright so has anyone here ever tried to help someone and that person only wanted to chat like let's say online anonymously but nothing more. Sure helping is the top priority but what if that person gives you a reason that they might do something stupid like kill themselves and you are close enough to stop them...would you still help....

Alright enough of the scenarios. So for those of you who help your friends when they need it or request it this is for you and if not still for you cause this could help.

How far have you gone to help a person? Have you said you were going to meet them or talk on the phone? How far?

   For me I tend to go pretty far to help a person within a certain boundary and I find that when someone makes a certain point clear i either go further in the helping process that I am using or switch to a different method.

Ok...ok what about let's say a complete stranger stops you on the road and asks for advice how far would u go to help them?

So the big question being asked here is how far to go to help someone in need of any kind whether it is physical or mental?

Please leave comments or if you wish to e-mail me privately my email is [email protected]

This past September I ended my three year relationship which was something really hard for me to do. For anyone who is in this situation you need time to heal and gather your thoughts. Keep in mind how you do this is subject to change with each person.

So in ending a long relationship I feel as though we need to cover the aspects of the relationship:

   Alright let's begin

           First of all was it a good end to the relationship, did you end with a fight or was it mutual?

           Second was the relationship all what you expected

            Third, do each of you have closure in every sense of the word, with family, friends, everyone is alright with it including the both of you?

     Once  you have answered those questions in the best manner possible understand that you still need time. I know I did when I broke up with my boyfriend. It took a while and we had to talk a few more times about the relationship in order to really get everything we needed out in the open.

  Now I would also like to mention that my now ex and I do still talk. I try to keep in contact with my exes just to show that they did mean something to me and that just because we are not together doesn't mean we can't talk.

 Alright final part....What is your next move?

What are you going to do once you heal...will you date or stay single...?

Personally do something that makes you happy..treat yourself for a while and if it happens it happens.

Please leave comments and happy trails.

Sorry neither of us has posted anything in quite some time. Please understand that school work has been piling up for both of us and soon we will be posting more. Until then please feel free to e-mail us with questions.