hey gang does anyone know about like. a mental disorder version of parethnic? where a member for some reason fits the criteria and everyone else and brain in general just. doesn't?
like not in a syscourse way and as a poc i am aware the term is uh. it can be a bit Controversial it's just. i've seen it (the mental illness version) once or twice somewhere and never saved it but now we are pretty sure one of our members fits the criteria for ASPD while the rest of us mostly don't?? i think???
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Alright, so I know our Tumblr has been mainly system-related shitposts, but I actually want to share my takes on something somewhat controversial in the wider plural community...
Parethnicity
(Apologies if I jump around a bunch, I have adhd and this is my first time writing something like this on Tumblr)
so... this is obviously a controversial topic and we have reasons why we both like and dislike this term... That said, several of our headmates identify as Parethnic, so you know.
Second of all, keep in mind this is coming from a white system member in a pretty dang white body (we're jewish, but like).
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with parethnicity. I think it's a great way to say "my inner appearance/memories/etc have similarities with a certain race or ethnicity" while still acknowledging that it doesn't necessarily align with your body's race.
And even if there was anything inherently wrong with it, it wouldn't stop members of another race from existing in the first place. One way or another, they'd probably still exist. All our headmates look so different, and they have different body shapes and different heights and hair colors... and yes, people aren't discriminated against because of hair colors (at least, I sure hope they aren't) but when it comes down to it, it really isn't that different
Really, my only gripe is when people actually try to claim the experiences of POC... which admittedly I haven't seen much of. Most people I've witnessed using the term parethnic are respectful about it.
I want to actually share about two of my headmates who identify as parethnic.
The first one had memories from before she entered our system, and in addition, her appearance (or memories) do not match those of any race found on earth. She identifies as parethnic.
One of our other parethnic headmates (sorry I'm not giving names, they aren't here right now and I'd prefer to ask permission before using their names), in headspace, looks half-white and half-japanese. And they do 'identify' as this, although, they don't claim to have any sort of experiences related to being half-japanese.
Here's the thing I think is really overlooked though. It's not intentional, because like, we're not bigots... but one way or another, parethnic headmates are probably going to be interacted with differently than white headmates. Racism is unfortunately ingrained in our subconscious, and although it isn't at all to the same extent as one might experience with a non-white body, it's still there.
I think it's actually a good thing that we have parethnic headmates, and if anything, I think we should have more. Our system is mostly white, and I think that its important to have more diversity among our system. And we do have many other parethnic headmates with all sorts of different appearances and identities.
(When I say identity, I feel I should clarify that no system member goes "oh yeah, I'm whatever," most of them do make the distinction that they are whatever in the headspace)
So, here's another criticism about parethnicity that I saw somewhere once. It's that race isn't an inherent part of human nature, it's just that it was made up to justify being a really shitty person (thanks colonialism).
Which is true. There's nothing inherent and internal about race, but
1. Race is unfortunately a construct that we're probably going to live with for awhile (this isn't a good thing, I should say)
2. I think this is the reason the parethnic label exists. There's not a label for headmates with different, say, hair colors, because like I've said before, people aren't discriminated against hair colors at a systemic level
Last thing to say, I don't feel like I need to remind most people of this, but in case I do: please don't go into spaces spaces for meant for groups that you do not bodily belong to.
Anyhow, I'm very bad at getting my points across in long-winded posts apparently. But I tried. In retrospect, I should have practiced with a lighter topic first.
But anyway. I'm glad you read through the whole thing and I'm alright hearing others opinions on this, even if they are different than mine. Or other people asking me to clarify something because as I have said before I did a bad job getting my point across.
Anyway, if you try to shame systems for having alters outside their race, you are shaming them for a symptom of a mental illness. That makes you ableist.
Lmfao I'm dying, apparently there's a carrd explaining parethnic and they actually coined a term for people who discriminate against or are bigoted towards parethnic people, "Parethniphobia". So, basically reverse racism.
White people wanna be oppressed for their race so bad.
This is a quote about what apparently counts as parethniphobia, according to the carrd:
“Insisting that white-bodied systems can’t have headmates who aren’t internally white is a common form of parethniphobia.”
Nobody is fucking saying that! Nobody is saying that system members can't appear non-white internally. And saying that parethnic people aren't really internally whatever ethnicity they are is not bigoted, because they're still white if their body is white. Looking a certain way in the inner world doesn't magically mean that you truly ARE that race/ethnicity in some other dimension.
What the fuck, man.
Also, if you google the term it autocorrects to and brings up results for "parthenophobia", which is a term for fear of young girls/virigins, and that's just funny.
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for Parethnic alters who 1.believe They ARE that ethnicity. wether do to your soul coming to the new body (system) 2. Are a Introject.
and many more circumstances, You are vaild and deserve your culture!
álla-ethnic's may Transition to Their body to match their Race, but not all do!
HOWEVER: Álla-ethnic alters/systems DON'T support
the use of slurs if you're not born into that culture, and don't support use of gatekept things such as White sage unless given permission (Circumstances vary is what I'm trying to say, Don't use gatekept stuff)
Álla-ethnic's support ALL movements for equality ( BLM, Stop Asian Hate, wear orange, and so many more!)
DNI If you're r*cist, homophobic or ect.
this doesn't mean we face the same issues as others in the ethnicity, we won't claim to. As we Boost their voices not cover them!
We don't Support blackface either. as That's Racist.
