#npd term

BLUE NARCISSIST

A term for those with NPD who get most of their supply from the attention they get when depressed or sad (when theyre "blue"). Specifically aimed at situations where people care more for what someone has to say when theyre actively depressed but can be used for anything else too, whether this is a natural depression or not does not matter.

This term is EXCLUSIVE to those with NPD and is not to be used by radqueers who identify as "transNPD"

Term by: GAON

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⤷　　Someone who identifies as narcmono finds that their monogamous dating life is a result of their NPD.

⤷　　An example of this may be feeling a detachment from others around you and your EP partner being the only person that means anything to you, so you’d have no reason to date anyone else.

⤷　　Of course, that’s just an example, and anyone who identifies with narcmono can use it regardless of how they identify with it.

⤷　　The colours are based off this NPD flag and the symbol is the monogamous symbol.

⤷　　NARCPOLY. ❜

⤷　　Someone who identifies as narcpoly finds that their polyamorous dating life is a result of their NPD.

⤷　　An example of this may be someone having & dating several EPs or feeling more stable and secure in a polyamorous relationship rather than a monogamous one. They may also perform polyamory for fuel, but it is that person's responsibility to communicate such.

⤷　　Of course, that’s just an example, and anyone who identifies with narcpoly can use it regardless of how they identify with it.

⤷　　The colours are based off this NPD flag and the symbol is a polyamory symbol.

After… a year? I finally got around to this. Whoops.

pt/ special person stability [set of 5]. /end pt

-> explanation of stability labels can be found here. please read before claiming labels (they're plural terms, and without the context it could be interpreted differently!)

-p stability / special person stability: a stability label where one is only stable while their special person is in their life, or the collective's life. the special person may be in one's own system, another system, or an external person/collective. users may become unstable while their special person is not around, or only feel unstable if their special person were to leave their life entirely. this term is an umbrella term for any special person and exclusive to those with a personality disorder(s).

color picked from this flag; icon from here (adjusted color).

attention person stability: a stability label where one is only stable while their attention person is in their life, or the collective's life. the attention person may be in one's own system, another system, or an external person/collective. users may become unstable while their attention person is not around, or only feel unstable if their attention person were to leave their life entirely. this term is exclusive to those with hpd / histrionic personality disorder.

color picked from this flag; icon from here.

favorite person stability: a stability label where one is only stable while their favorite person is in their life, or the collective's life. the favorite person may be in one's own system, another system, or an external person/collective. users may become unstable while their favorite person is not around, or only feel unstable if their favorite person were to leave their life entirely. this term is exclusive to those with bpd / borderline personality disorder.

color picked from this flag; icon from here (adjusted color).

equal person stability: a stability label where one is only stable while their equal person is in their life, or the collective's life. the equal person may be in one's own system, another system, or an external person/collective. users may become unstable while their equal person is not around, or only feel unstable if their equal person were to leave their life entirely. this term is exclusive to those with npd / narcissistic personality disorder.

color picked from this flag; icon from here.

depended person stability: a stability label where one is only stable while their depended person is in their life, or the collective's life. the depended person may be in one's own system, another system, or an external person/collective. users may become unstable while their depended person is not around, or only feel unstable if their depended person were to leave their life entirely. this term is exclusive to those with dpd / dependent personality disorder.

color picked from this flag; icon from here (adjusted color).

-> credit and ping for @the-label-sanctuary b/c all the original flags are so nice :)

coined by us on july 24 2025, made with plurals in mind, and exclusive to people with personality disorders (diagnosis status doesn't matter).

-> only want to see our coined terms? @wsys-coining

PT: NPD term coining - Unranked Person (UNRP) /end PT

an unranked person is a person that the narcissist does not place in their hierarchy at all. it is not the same as an Equal Person (EP), who is placed as equal to the narcissist in their hierarchy. an UNRP is not considered equal, lesser than, or better than, the pwNPD does not process their UNRP within their hierarchy at all.

an UNRP relationship is not inherently positive, negative, or neutral. a few common signs include:

being less competitive with the person, or not competing with them on anything at all

being more comfortable opening up to the person or showing them your true self, because you neither fear disappointing them nor consider them unworthy of your time

enjoying talking to them, but feeling fine or mostly fine if they don't have the time/energy/capacity to talk to you

confusion surrounding how you feel about the person

of course, these are not the only possible traits of a UNRP relationship, i just wanted to provide a handful of examples to give folks a better idea of what this type of relationship could look like. if you don't relate to these traits it does not mean you cannot use this term.

an UNRP relationship can include other PD-specific dynamics, such as favorite person (FP), attention person (ATP), safe person (SP), and anything else. the only dynamics it cannot coexist with are ones which involve a placement in an NPD hierarchy, such as equal person (EP), chosen person (CHP), devalued person (DEVP), etc.

as with all other PD-specific dynamics, it is possible to have more than one UNRP.

nobody has to use these, i made this list for fun and because i plan on designing flags around them in the future and i wanted to have consistent theming for them

cluster a: umbra ppd, penumbra szpd, antumbra stpd -based on the three different parts of a shadow

cluster b: dusk aspd, twilight bpd, midnight npd, dawn hpd -based on different times of night/transitions to and from night.

cluster c: bathal dpd, abyssal avpd, hadal ocpd -based on layers of the deep ocean.

edit 12/3/2025: also came up with terms for persodivergent, pd-ts, ospd, and pdnos! shadow persodivergent -based on the common theme of all the terms, and the terms shadowgay and others. the most universal form of darkness.

haha, it’s time to play!

[PT: haha, it’s time to play! /end PT]

⌦ Npdgodic — a xenogender relating to having narcissistic traits and being a god.

⌦ Can only be used by people with NPD/narcissistic traits

⌦ Hi Kami! :D

What a dull place! Maybe I should annihilate it!

A narcissistic trait holder is a role for an alter who holds traits that are found to be narcissistic in the system. They may help manage these traits, or they may enable them. These alters are typically triggered into front when situations arise that affect their narcissism.

There are three types of these holders; positive, negative, and general/neutral.

-A positive narcissistic trait holder may front when the system is praised, rewarded, valued, or elevated in status. Such as a professor highly grading their work and claiming them to be very intelligent or creative, or if the system is given a promotion at their work to a higher position. These holders may front to hold onto the ego boost and keep the memories as evidence that they are indeed better than others. Positive narcissistic trait holders may also be ego holders or confidence holders.

-A negative narcissistic trait holder may front when the system is devalued, disregarded, chastised, or lowered in status. Such as being excluded from activities they felt they should be part of, or ignored by those around them when they feel they deserve praise and attention for hard work. These holders may front to lash out or assert that the system is not at fault for the situation, and may try and find reasoning for failure or try to cope with the situation by participating in activities that boost their ego. Negative narcissistic trait holders may also be anger holders, insecurity holders, or envy holders.

-A general/neutral narcissistic trait holder fronts in any variety of situations, and can fulfill the roles of both negative and positive narcissistic holders. This is a catch all.

NOT EXCLUSIVE TO NPD, coined for anyone who experiences narcissistic traits! However, coiner has NPD, and made this specifically with personality disorders in mind.