#nonbinarygender

I’m here to add a new addition to the -flux group, Misceflux!

Misceflux is a gender that feels as though it has two or more "parts", "energies," "facets," or "states." One part may be eternally static, parts may fluctuate one at a time, multiple can be fluctuating at varying levels of intensity, parts may fluctuate in groups, or all may fluctuate, though it's never multiple genders, it's parts of one.

For example, you may have a xenic gender with male features and both parts may fluctuate without ever being entirely separate entities, you may have a gender of both masculine and feminine parts where only one fluctuates, or you may be pangender where a few, but not all fluctuate! Things like that!

It could be considered a subset of demiflux, as demiflux is a broad term, but I wanted to make it more specific for my experience as demiflux doesn’t have a solid definition.

Edit: I redesigned the flag, though I’ll still include the originals below because why not.

Here is the new design! :D

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Today, I’m sharing a cute androgynous look that pays tribute to the Harajuku fashion scene. 

I’ve devoted a huge part of my life to clothes and fashion. Clothes is something many people may treat with contempt, as “rugs” or merely a way to cover their bodies. But I know for sure that clothing doesn’t only influence the way others look at you. It’s also a way for you to express yourself. And this gives you ample opportunities to be creative and present yourself each time you go out. You can use your looks to tell others about your mood, your interests, values and attitudes.

I love Asian culture, as my regular readers might have noticed already. I love Hello Kitty and collect Hello Kitty merchandise. I often get into that sweet, cat-like mood when I want someone to pick me up, stroke me, take care of me. And this is a great way to signal the world about my inner emotions, while not going too far into cosplay or any extremes bound to a certain subculture. That is, of course, if you aren’t a cosplayer or a fan of some edgy fashions. That way you might as well get in character and make older people’s heads spin almost every day)))

Now, let’s throw together our affordable and cute androgynous look. Unisex style is meant to suit people of all genders. Anyone can love cats. There are many Hello Kitty fans on across the gender spectrum. The lines of ‘cuteness’ between the pink and blue factions have long been blurred. Being cute is not a bad thing for anyone, especially with genderless fashion trends in countries like Japan and South Korea. Anyway, it might not be a good idea to overdo it with “girlish” attributes like pretty bows and ruffles.

Here’s a tip for sticking to a low-budget with your looks. Try not to throw away any unique or basic pieces of clothing. I never get rid of such items. They wait in the wings until it’s time they become trendy again with their old-school feel, or until I manage to team them up with some newer items. In this look, I’m using a denim overall I’ve had since school — this way, I didn’t have to buy a new similar model at a rather high price. A casual basic white sweater with a collar in a warmer shade was bought in some dime-store. I’ve had these Timberland boots for years, they’re indestructible. I’ve been vegan for several years now, but I think it’s wasteful and not eco-friendly to throw away things that can still be used. Both the old-school quilted velvet jacket with a leopard collar and a fluffy Hello Kitty beanie were bought in a second-hand store for a total price of about $4. These socks were knitted by my auntie. As for wire-wrapped rings, you can even make them yourself like many Harajuku people do.

And that’s it, nyan. You’re such a cute little star. Especially if you have big eyes and a sweet-looking face.

Beltane is the time when the nature takes a definite turn towards summer, the time to say farewell to everything obsolete, dead and threadbare. The time to part with It's time to part with things you don’t need, clear your house of trash and clear your heart of strangers, unpleasant people and difficult experiences. If you wanted to break up with someone, then Beltane is the perfect time. If you’re looking for a new love, a new mate, then Beltane is the best period when you can ask for it. Sometimes we need to put a final period to free ourselves from devastating doubt. To free ourselves from obsessive thoughts of the past long dead, from the things that have been haunting us.

Beltane is celebrated the night of April 30 and May 1, when all the fairies, mermaids and other spirits go around freely and see who is filled with love for nature and reverence for the sun, who’s greeting the dawn properly. Similar to the night of Samhain, bonfires should be burning, but they’re kindled with the first rays of the rising sun and burn through to the end. Beltane fire can be used to cleanse and protect your house and yourself. This is generally the perfect time for purification. But it is a time of new meetings and promising beginnings, not the time of whirlwind romance and hasty partnerships. It's better to enter into marriage after a certain stage has been completed and the autumn's harvest is over.

If you don’t have an opportunity to go out into the woods or into the courtyard and light bonfires under the sky, the home version will also suit: use gold, green, red and white candles. Greet the rising sun with fire, celebrate its sunrise and when the morning comes, go to a forest to decorate a festive tree, best of all birch. Write your wishes on colored paper ribbons and hang them on the tree. Leave treats to the spirits of nature and, if possible, leap over the flame. In the past, people used to jump through fire naked, only wearing green wreaths on their heads, so that their long clothes wouldn’t catch fire. If you are brave enough this will be an unforgettable experience. 😁 Let your naked buttocks feel all the warmth of the summer to come. 😁 Actually on this day people traditionally decorate not only trees, but also their houses with greenery and dress specifically themselves in white clothes.

Every time I travel and meet with hotel or resort employees, team members at workshops, or simply local people with whom I come into contact as a customer, guest or tourist, I can't but think about how they will accept me and what I’ll have to face.

After all, people are so different and many of them have never even heard of the existence of non-binary people. For almost all new people I meet on trips, I am the first androgyne in their life. Or at least the first one to introduce myself this way and speak openly on the topic. Each time, they ask lots of questions with genuine interest, without hostility and aggression, about what it means and how to treat me properly. They’re ordinary people who aren’t really passionate about gender issues. However, I’ve never seen any alarm or disgust in their faces. They can’t fully understand me. It’s easier for them to think that I’m a boy. But this is simply because they aren’t used to such concepts and it's still difficult for them to get a hang of the idea and settle into it.

So far, I've only traveled around Ukraine. And I’ve almost never met anyone who would treat me negatively or wouldn’t be ready to work together with me. Maybe I was lucky to only meet nice, calm, friendly people. Perhaps a lot depends on the way you present yourself: how open and self-confident you are, how ready you are to appear and be as friendly as possible, creating a positive image of a sociable person who feels at ease with other people and is not ashamed of being themselves.

I don’t know what they say behind my back. Many of the people I thought were my friends ended up spreading hurtful rumors and accusations once they’ve had a chance to sling mud at me. And seemingly upstanding LGBTIQ+ allies and even activists can do heinous things no matter how positive and nice you act. So, their studied friendliness is no guarantee of sincerity. Therefore, I don’t care so much about what people think or feel about me. They have the right to do this just like any other person. All that matters for me is that their prejudices don't affect affect our cooperation and its results. Let their smiles be fake. Let them get their head full of different ideas and information regarding non-binary people in a month or two. Yet let them not spoil my mood at the moment, let them fulfill their part of the deal, and let us part in good health and with possibly fond memories.

It's a day to celebrate those who identify as non-binary. The term non-binary refers to gender identities that are not solely male or female‍—‌identities that are outside the gender binary.