#nonbinarycutie

Today, I’m sharing a cute androgynous look that pays tribute to the Harajuku fashion scene. 

I’ve devoted a huge part of my life to clothes and fashion. Clothes is something many people may treat with contempt, as “rugs” or merely a way to cover their bodies. But I know for sure that clothing doesn’t only influence the way others look at you. It’s also a way for you to express yourself. And this gives you ample opportunities to be creative and present yourself each time you go out. You can use your looks to tell others about your mood, your interests, values and attitudes.

I love Asian culture, as my regular readers might have noticed already. I love Hello Kitty and collect Hello Kitty merchandise. I often get into that sweet, cat-like mood when I want someone to pick me up, stroke me, take care of me. And this is a great way to signal the world about my inner emotions, while not going too far into cosplay or any extremes bound to a certain subculture. That is, of course, if you aren’t a cosplayer or a fan of some edgy fashions. That way you might as well get in character and make older people’s heads spin almost every day)))

Now, let’s throw together our affordable and cute androgynous look. Unisex style is meant to suit people of all genders. Anyone can love cats. There are many Hello Kitty fans on across the gender spectrum. The lines of ‘cuteness’ between the pink and blue factions have long been blurred. Being cute is not a bad thing for anyone, especially with genderless fashion trends in countries like Japan and South Korea. Anyway, it might not be a good idea to overdo it with “girlish” attributes like pretty bows and ruffles.

Here’s a tip for sticking to a low-budget with your looks. Try not to throw away any unique or basic pieces of clothing. I never get rid of such items. They wait in the wings until it’s time they become trendy again with their old-school feel, or until I manage to team them up with some newer items. In this look, I’m using a denim overall I’ve had since school — this way, I didn’t have to buy a new similar model at a rather high price. A casual basic white sweater with a collar in a warmer shade was bought in some dime-store. I’ve had these Timberland boots for years, they’re indestructible. I’ve been vegan for several years now, but I think it’s wasteful and not eco-friendly to throw away things that can still be used. Both the old-school quilted velvet jacket with a leopard collar and a fluffy Hello Kitty beanie were bought in a second-hand store for a total price of about $4. These socks were knitted by my auntie. As for wire-wrapped rings, you can even make them yourself like many Harajuku people do.

And that’s it, nyan. You’re such a cute little star. Especially if you have big eyes and a sweet-looking face.

1.1.2019

Started off 2019 by having a cup of coffee and watching the sun come up. A rare thing for me since I'm never up this early. It was peaceful and a good way to start off the new year. I'm happy.

As a non-binary transgender, I define visibility as freedom from anyone's expectations. For me, this means that the society knows and accepts that there are people outside the traditional boundaries of “men” and “women”, and I don’t have to explain who I am to every stranger several times a day.

For me, visibility means not being perceived as “an incomplete gay boy” or “a lesbian girl who haven't worked through her physical dysphoria”, but rather the right to be myself, an androgyne, the one who knows best who I am.

It means that clothing and cosmetics industries, manufacturers of hygiene products, medicine and other necessities reckon with the specific needs of transgender people.

You’re not sick, you don't need to be treated from being yourself. It's just… before, people didn’t know or didn’t accept the existence of androgynous identity and lifestyle. The same way people didn’t know about penicillin or subatomic particles, although they existed long before humans and didn’t appear to fit into fashion trends.

Being visible means knowing that I’m not alone in this world, that i’m not destined for misunderstanding, yet more and more people find the strength to speak out about their non-binary identity. I know that I’m not alone and that I’m definitely not a mistake.

It means knowing that you’re just the way you are, the way you know and imagine yourself. You don’t have to try to reshape yourself based on male or female socialization.

Visibility means the right to be addressed the way you prefer to be addressed. The right not to get upset because of someone’s ignorance or lack of education, and the right to refrain from communication with ignorant people.

Visibility means the right to live a full life as a part of society without having to deal with social rejection and alienation.