#kokomitsu

I really think it’s all in the way it’s done. Because usually when a male is written to be the initiator, he makes advances in a really aggressive way, often violent...usually involving a lot of forceful grabbing, lightning-fast tearing off of clothes, shoving, etc. Whereas, the way Kokoro did it was slow and deliberate, gentle, and she explained her reasoning before she had so much as exposed his neck...she never restricted him in any way, didn’t take his hands, or even pin him by sitting on his lap, etc.

In fact, he was the only one to use force when he slapped her hand away after she brought him outside of his comfort zone.

Her slow deliberation was not only to check in with herself, but also to check in with him...the slow gestures and caresses meant to give him time to register what was happening and time to protest...which is exactly what happened, even before Zorome interrupted.