#islamreminders

If you know how to use your tongue you can save a marriage. Praise your wife, talk to her, say good words or your husband. Tell them how good-looking they are. Tell them how you appreciate their sacrifice for you. My brother's and sister's, marriage is about sacrifice! The more you have sacrificed the more you will win the heart of your spouse. Sometimes even if they don't like you that much -because of a word you may have uttered or a mistake you may have made. Your sacrifice will act as a soothing cream over that particular gash that might have been caused and very soon the mark will be gone. Why? Because you say, you know I appreciate you really. You have sacrificed. You have given birth to so many of my children and so on. and you have done this and you have done that. You appreciate because there comes a point in the life of man when he realizes that allegiance is with the one who has sacrificed for him all along. What this means is, some people, as they're growing up, you know they're interested in this one and that one, but brother you are married. Interested still in that one, this one here. Looking this person, that person, looking and so on and you know that person is very eloquent and this person is like this and like that but there comes an age when they realize, you know what, my wife is the best. Why? She cooked for me, she cleaned for me, she has my children, she stayed awake with those children, she brought them up, she did this, she did that, she tried their best, she's religious, she's trying to please Allah, she's at the same time this and that...

إِنَّمَا نُطْعِمُكُمْ لِوَجْهِ ٱللَّهِ لَا نُرِيدُ مِنكُمْ جَزَآءً وَلَا شُكُورًا “[They say]: We feed you for the sake of Allāh alone: no reward do we desire from you, nor thanks.”

Today we look for any reason to break the marriage. Do you know that? Any problem, we look for that which will make us part ways? Why is it that our fathers and the previous generations lasted longer? Because they did the opposite. What did they do? They looked for the smallest reason to hold it together. We look for the smallest reason to break it. We have stopped helping our spouses through a problem. We'd rather opt. out of the problem, that is a crisis you will never live happily ever after. You caught your husband doing something wrong. Two things - immediately today, they would say: 'I'm going home and I want a divorce.' out. Why? Because one thing went wrong, the man made a mistake, something happened, he fell into the trap of shaytan and now the house must be broken. That's stupidity and foolishness it really - if a house was supposed to be broken for a mistake of a man or a woman all our houses would be broken by now. Everyone one of them.  Tell me, who has not made a mistake? Allahu Akbar.  Obviously mistakes are of a different nature. We are not talking of you know, certain types of errors that are sometimes perhaps beyond a certain limit. No - we are talking of errors and mistakes sometimes things do occur.