#intjedness

Relatable.

This is why I don’t “open up” more.

INFJs are known for their "door slam." I'm an INTJ and my husband is an INFJ. I've seen his version of the well-known door slam, and I've experienced my own. Personally, I don't do a "door slam." IMO, that indicates that one is being cut off, but there may still be lingering emotions about the situation. For instance, a family member may finally cross that line they've been toeing, and an INFJ (in my experience) will say, "Enough is enough." They'll walk away from the situation, but the pain of it still bothers them. In my case, I'll battle for long periods of time with making the decision to end things, but once it's made, it's like a switch goes off. I have no emotional ties to you or what's happened. I actually call it my INTJ Disconnect. Because that's literally what it is. For example, I had a very close friend go the span of 18 months, gradually changing in a way that was harmful to our relationship. Because she was one of the closest friends I'd ever had, I spent that year and a half struggling with the turmoil I felt about the crumbling relationship. One day, I realized our paths were taking us separate directions, and I needed to let her go. After I consciously made the decision, my emotions became entirely separate. I still see or speak with her from time to time, but there's no emotion tied to her whatsoever anymore. My switch has been flipped, and I haven't second guessed my decision since. Hence, the INTJ Disconnect.