#intermisia

that means no more micropenis and small dick "jokes".

that means no more neckbeard "jokes".

that means no more "jokes" about moobs / man boobs if someone has told you that it makes them uncomfortable (/ dysphoric).

that means no more mocking men (and women, but i see this targeting men more often) with flat asses.

that means no more mocking men for having long hair.

that means no more mocking men for having a "pedo 'stache".

that means not mocking trans men who dont want to medically transition and respecting their boundaries.

that means not mocking intersex men whose intersex variations you dont personally understand.

It’s so funny to hear it from people who start off by saying, "We support intersex people!", only to then turn around and claim that being intersex is a "mutation," that intersex people can be neatly divided into "men" and "women," that self-discovery is "invalid," or that if your variation doesn't cause you health issues, you're "not actually intersex"—and other such nonsense.

Last month, in a queer community, I shared my trans and cis experiences, which are tied to my intersex and neurodivergent lived experience. Someone reposted my message to an exclusionist queer channel that supposedly "supports" intersex people. They wrote that no intersex person would ever call themselves "cis+trans," calling it a "disgrace" to the community. They also claimed that unless a doctor has confirmed it, I can’t call myself intersex. On top of that, they called me a 12-year-old girl who's just "attention-seeking"—even though I’m almost 19, and my age was literally listed in my profile.

I just want to say that your "support" for intersex people vanishes the exact moment our actual lived experience becomes inconvenient for you or doesn't fit into your binary worldview.

everywhere i go, all my peers are discussing my right to exist. inter & transmisogyny filling every stupid joke they make. disgust at the idea of ambiguous genitalia or horror of the idea that someone could "be a man" and you "not be able to tell"...

is it a "womans space" or is it a domestic violence shelter?

is it a "womans space" or is it a queer pride event?

hey. i dont know how the fuck to tell you how that is so incredibly fucking transphobic and intersexist to link high amounts of testosterone in someones body to lack of empathy. not only that, but how wildly disrespectful it is to neurodivergent people who lack empathy and are anti-racism.

you cannot reclaim shi/hir pronouns if youre not intersex

you cannot reclaim the word h*rm or h*rmaphrodite if youre not intersex

you cannot reclaim the word baeddel if youre not intersex

you cannot call yourself transintersex if youre not intersex

you cannot say that you "want to transition to be intersex" full stop

you cannot say that you were cafab or camab if youre not intersex