Cis women “punching up” on trans men is ultimately just a way of upholding the patriarchy that cis women have been conditioned to accept and complicit in for years now and a decent chunk of inter-community “discourse” can be attributed to the transphobia of cis women “allies” attempting to apply a very cis centric view of feminism to our lives.
When you see people engaging in this sort of behavior, all it represents is a mirror to centuries worth of women “punishing” other “women”/women (and in some cases between older women and their “sons”/sons) who doesn’t adhere to strict cisnormative gender expression (whether it be trans men/mascs, butches, trans women/fems, or anyone else who fell into a category of gender non-conformity.) It represents a mirror of centuries worth of people being forced into dresses, into marriage, into pregnancy; being directed at some of the most violated victims of it. This is not to say everyone mentioned wasn’t victims of this system (they most definitely were) but that cis women are engaging in the exact same rhetoric and oppression that kept both them and trans people down simply because they’ve found a target that’s open to their bashings.
These same systems that have and will keep ruining the lives of billions will keep their strength as long as people wish to play this game of “who can I oppress in exchange for my pain?” Because to some people this is ultimately about finding a group that allows them to fit in than liberation, and you can see this as clear as day in groups like TERFs, gay separatists, transmeds, etc.
And the ironic part of all this? So much of this behavior in the present day online emerges from people who heavily engage with modern repackaged misogyny ranging from the girl math/dinner nonsense to those girlbloggers who constantly joke about having female hysteria or getting a lobotomy. Jokes which are inherently built upon the suffering of queer people, often times trans men, mascs, and butches. People who find the patriarchy to be a funny thing to be laughed at rather than an oppressive system that’s still stifling millions of women and trans people to this day.
Liberation cannot mean a thing when it comes at the cost of another being the gum on someone’s iron boot. It does not mean anything when the sorrows of others are nothing but a joke to you, when your only end goal is comfort, when it’s a chance to ignore the pain of others as long as you can twist your logic far enough to justify it.
I’m not trying to be overly harsh but it’s difficult not to grow bitter when you see the exact things that you spent years learning about and discussing (often times with the aforementioned cis women) be completely disregarded the moment you come out. To see how quickly the eyes of people you believed to be moral and good shift to you in disgust in the same exact way people have the both of you for years.
