AIO for ignoring someone who put me through hell?
A girl who caused me tremendous emotional pain recently messaged me asking about my dance classes.
She's connected to one of the worst periods of my life, and for a long time I cried almost every day because of everything that happened. What makes it harder is that she now presents herself as a very positive and uplifting person online, which feels completely different from the person I experienced.
She also has a habit of suddenly taking interest in things after finding out I'm doing them. Recently, a mutual told her I had started dance classes, and she reached out asking about them.
Dance is one of the few things that brings me peace and helps me cope with stress. The thought of her becoming part of that space made me panic, so I deleted the chat without replying.
My friends, sister, and parents all think I should keep my distance because they saw how much that period of my life affected me.
Now I feel guilty because she may not even realize how much she hurt me.
AIO for ignoring the message and wanting nothing to do with her?
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (100% confidence)
Top comment: “It's not your job to tell her how much she hurt you if you don't feel like it. You owe her nothing. NOR. Protect your peace.”
Notable comment: “NOR...
But I would start telling everyone you're going to a different studio. Figure out who's talking by which place she shows up, and keep quiet about dance.
If you don't share it,.others won't know it”
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Originally shared by Upper_Cucumber9145 on r/AmIOverreacting on June 4th, 2026 at 4:20 PM UTC. Credit to u/de4dlyp4in and u/Embarrassed-Row-2025 for the quoted comments.
