#identityshift

YOU KEEP CHECKING. every time you look for proof, you’re reminding yourself it’s not here yet. stop searching. let it show up.

YOU’RE IDENTIFYING WITH THE OLD STORY. you say you want change, but you keep thinking from the version of you who doesn’t have it. be the version of you who already does.

YOU’RE OVERCOMPLICATING IT. you don’t need 10 methods, 5 routines, and a perfect mindset.

YOU REACT TOO FAST. something doesn’t go your way once and you spiral. one moment doesn’t define the outcome unless you let it.

PERSIST. not perfectly, not obsessively. just enough to not fall back into the old version of you.

YOU’RE FOCUSING ON TIME. “when will it happen?” slows everything down. it happens faster when you stop measuring it.

I'm going to say something that might break your current system:

Everything you're doing to get there is keeping you from arriving.

1. I stopped trying. And that's when it started working.

There's a version of "doing the work" that is secretly just panic in a pretty outfit.

Checking the mirror forty times a day isn't faith — it's auditing. Stacking subliminal on top of subliminal isn't trust — it's desperation with headphones in. Finding the next thing to fix isn't growth — it's your mind convincing you that you're not done yet. That you're not there yet.

And as long as you believe you're not there yet — you won't be.

The shift happened when I told myself one simple thing: there is nothing to fix. Not because I'd arrived. But because arriving was already inevitable. It was already decided. So the checking, the obsessing, the rituals — they became pointless. Not because I gave up. Because I was done. There's a difference.

2. I stopped dressing like someone who was waiting to become her.

I sat with myself and asked a question I hadn't asked before:

What does the version of me who already has this actually do on a Tuesday?

She doesn't count calories — she just eats well because that's who she is. She doesn't wear clothes that hide her — she wears what she loves because she's not waiting for permission from the mirror first.

So I stopped waiting.

I ordered the yogurt bowl. I wore the dress. I showed up as her before I felt like her — because I understood that the feeling follows the identity, not the other way around.

Was it uncomfortable? Genuinely, yes. There were moments I felt like I was wearing a costume. But underneath the discomfort was something quieter and more certain — the feeling of actually moving. Of becoming. Not performing becoming. Actually becoming.

That feeling is unlike anything else.

3. I didn't push harder. I just didn't quit.

Persistence, the way most people practice it, looks like force. More affirmations. Louder. Longer. More convinced.

But real persistence is almost boring. It's just — not letting the doubt win. Not engaging with it. Not arguing with it, not feeding it, not trying to logic your way out of it.

A contradicting thought would come. I'd see it. And I'd let it pass like a car outside a window — present for a second, then gone. I wasn't beautiful because I convinced myself. I was beautiful because I decided I already was, and I simply didn't renegotiate that decision every time my reflection had an opinion.

That's it. That's the whole thing.

You're not behind because you're not trying hard enough.

You're behind because you're trying at all.

Decide. Occupy. Persist without force.

The moment you choose the version of you that actually wants things, the universe stops glitching and starts cooperating.

Half the “blocks” you think you have are just you trying to stay small enough to not bother anyone.

Stuck between who you were and who you’re becoming?

That in-between space where everything feels uncertain? That’s transformation. But no one tells you how disorienting it can feel.

⚡ You don’t need to figure it all out. You just need a moment to breathe and realign.

lately, i’ve been manifesting things pretty quickly. today, i manifested something in like four hours. how? i locked in. something happened to me about a week ago, and it was pretty hurtful. but maybe it made something click? i’ve been spending more time with myself and less time in the 3D. i’ve been journaling, watching shows i like while listening to subs, playing subs or sleep tapes at night, eft tapping in the morning, yoga, meditation, etc.

i’m focusing on feeling good and giving myself what i want in my mind. i affirm (which is really just thinking) throughout the day, and i’ve been doing a good job of staying aware of my thoughts and noticing why i’m feeling a certain way, too. that’s big for me as a former over-thinker.

You’re in the middle of becoming someone you’ve never been before — and that process always feels like chaos right before it clicks.

Keep going. You’re closer than you think.

worrying about the 3D is truly pointless. the change comes from the internal and then it’s reflected. what’s the point in affirming and then checking the 3D? be aware of who you’re being.

for example: let’s say you’re affirming for.. money. you constantly affirm you have x amount of dollars, or maybe you’re just affirming how grateful you are to be abundant, wealthy, etc. then you go check your bank account looking for the money you just said you had!

honestly, i’ve learned the law is simple. it’s just about being able to master your thoughts, your mind. mastering self. self concept is key! and nervous system regulation will help a lot!

it’s all coming from you.