rant: types of love
A lot of us have been in toxic relationships, and perhaps at times we’ve played it off as totally being on the other person, ... and sometimes maybe it was. but chances are, we played a part in this toxicity too. Perhaps we weren’t kind enough, patient enough, or loving enough. Perhaps we helped enable certain behaviors and addictions. (as well as other bad habits, such as possessiveness, and or codependendency.) Maybe we were in fact too insecure in ourselves, or too mentally unstable to even be in this relationship. But.. we were told that romantic love was the end all, be all. that without it, we are chopped liver... we are less than whole, and undeserving of care, and tenderness. All of this couldn’t be less true. We are inherently worthy. & maybe, while we have been begging, and yearning for this elusive romantic love, we failed to realize something.... that the true deficit here of Love, is one of Self-Love.
