Because honestly, it’s never about analyzing Lily with any actual literary or historical objectivity. It’s pure personal projection. It’s about wanting to be the ultimate "Chosen Girl": the pretty, palatably flawed, morally untouchable girl who captures the undivided devotion of the rich, high-status jock and his powerful, cool friends at school.

When you look at this phenomenon through a gender and class lens, the psychological gymnastics become almost fascinating:

Under patriarchy, women are conditioned to measure their worth through male validation, specifically validation from high-status, high-capital men. By self-inserting into Lily, these fans get to participate in a classic patriarchal bargain: they get the social protection, wealth, and prestige of the ruling-class man (James Potter), while maintaining the illusion of female empowerment because "he changed for her." It feeds the deeply internalized misogynistic trope that a woman's ultimate triumph isn't her own independence or political agency, but her ability to "tame" and be chosen by the top-tier male in the social hierarchy.

To make this self-insert fantasy work, Snape —the impoverished, abused, non-physically-conforming boy— cannot just be a messy, tragic peer. He has to be forced into one of two gendered tropes that serve the self-insert's ego:

The "Creepy Incel / Threat" Route: They frame him as an obsessive, predatory monster. Why? Because purity culture and patriarchal narratives require a "threat" to justify the heroine seeking sanctuary with the rich, powerful man. By painting the poor, ugly boy as an irredeemable villain who oppressed her, James’s relentless bullying suddenly gets re-framed not as domestic terrorism or public assault, but as "protective chivalry." It’s a classic classist narrative: the rich man saving the pure maiden from the dangerous, low-class degenerate.

The "Pathetic Tragic Simp" Route: They treat him with a sickening, condescending pity. He becomes the "poor ugly boy who was hopelessly in love with me forever." This nourishes a very specific type of female ego: the ego that delights in being secretly worshipped by an inferior. They look down on him with a patronizing "aww, how cute that he wanted me so badly," while knowing damn well that in real life, their class prejudice and aesthetic bias would never allow them to breathe the same air as a traumatized, poor kid.

This is where the internal contradiction becomes hilarious. These fans love to posture as progressive, yet they defend James Potter tooth and nail, a guy who used his immense wealth, physical dominance, and social impunity to harass and assault people for fun. Why do they forgive him? Because patriarchy and classism have taught them that cruelty is excusable if it comes wrapped in charisma, athletic skill, and old money. Admitting James was an abusive bully breaks the core Wattpad fantasy where the wealthy, popular boy is secretly a golden-hearted prince who treats his girl like a queen.

Look at how they ship Lily with Sirius or Barty Crouch Jr. It’s the ultimate Y/N trope. Of course, they have to canonically choose James because he offers legitimacy, safety, and money. But the idea of the dangerous, aristocratic, obscenely hot "bad boy" (Sirius or Barty) carrying a dark, unrequited passion for them —a passion they can never act on because they are far too pure, chaste, and morally upright— is the ultimate female-ego cocktail. It allows them to enjoy the thrill of male danger without risking their moral standing.

At the end of the day, these super-fans are using Lily to live out a deeply classist, male-centered fantasy of social dominance, wrapped in a fake aesthetic of "girlboss morality." And watching them try to lecture others on ethics while defending abusive aristocrats and projecting their own patriarchal validation needs onto a fictional teenager is just profoundly exhausting. And to top it all off, the most embarrassing part of this whole projection is how they try to dress Lily up as some kind of radical "Social Justice Warrior" icon just so they can feel empowered and morally superior.

Let's be so real for a second: canon Lily Evans is not the revolutionary feminist hero they pretend she is.

What did she actually do in canon? The literal second she finished school at seventeen? eighteen?, she married the absurdly rich guy she had personally watched abuse, bully, and publicly degrade people for years, and got pregnant with his heir at nineteen. She moved straight into a traditional, heteronormative, suburban family structure funded entirely by multi-generational Potter money.

There is nothing inherently wrong with a character wanting a quiet, domestic life, but watching her fans try to frame marrying an abusive aristocrat and settling into respectable, wealthy domesticity as the ultimate pinnacle of female empowerment is insane.

For example, chulchuck is like the character that 'are technically adults' that cater twords pedophiles, he's technically an adult, but ryoko kui makes him a man and a divorced father as well showing how unrealistic the 1000 year old argument is.

Senshi on the other hand is put in the position of the 'mommy' type character. He trys to act like a parental figure, cooks, and has most of the fan service. But him trying to act like a parent is countered by the fact that everyone is an adult, so he's just being weird. He shows how weird Classic shonen tropes for group dynamics are.

Marcill and falen are the two men who everybody ships together.

Also, I'll focus on the movie just fyi, but some parts of the book will be talked about.

Rocky and Adrian's relationship, gender and sexuality in fandom analysis

[PT: Rocky and Adrian's relationship, gender and sexuality in fandom analysis]

Gender

[PT: Gender]

So the Eridians seem to be a cosexual species, with no gender as we know it. And the use of he/him pronouns by Grace towards Rocky can be attributed just to our human social biases with patriarchy —Which are the one's I'll be using to make no confusions, and I want to reiterate that pronouns don't equal gender. But apart from the headcanon of after that Rocky and Grace talking about it and either:

1- It's decided that he prefers they/them or another rendition of neo/xenopronouns or combination of some after he researches human gender identity and expression.

2- It's decided that he'll keep he/him to match with Grace.

There have been others, but these are the main ones done when exploring it. The thing is that he in the fandom seems to still be pretty much associated with masculinity/androgyny for the most part, probably coming too from the pronouns used.

The thing is that then when doing Adrian it seems like, subconsciously, people have associated Adrian to have to be associated with androgyny/femininity. That is seen as most dynamics that are done with the pair are very much subversions of the perceived patriarchal expectations of relationships —The man/masculine one being the strong big typical western idea of masculinity, and the feminine one/woman being the smaller, emotional typical western idea of femininity.

These expectations are not only commonly put onto monoallo cishet perisex relationships, but they always are expected in some way in its counterparts. That can be seen with the idea of Sapphic relationships being expected to be masc x fem, Achillean relationships being expected to have a clear bear x twink, etc.

With Rocky and Adrian this can be seen with the general idea the fandom has done. As when these things I will be listing are drawn/narrated they often have an undertone of "how good! We're subverting expectations!". But with that comes also the connotation that one is generally seen as more feminine and the other as more masculine genderwise, and this changes subvert that already supposed idea of gender they have been put on.

This goes for what I've seen the most and therefore see as the majority, this does not go for everything, as fandoms are always very varied, and this one in particular especially in regards of queer themes.

This can be seen with the making Rocky very emotional/fidgety/whipped when he's with Adrian, and the other being much more nonchalant/quiet/serene.

The depictions of Rocky being a lot smaller in comparison and the shape language too. As Rocky is commonly depicted as more round and Adrian as more triangular, which could come from this idea of subverting expectations as feminine people are generally seen as soft/cute/little and masculine ones as sharp/strong/big.

And with this comes the next part:

Sexuality

[PT: Sexuality]

So with what we've seen with gender, we tend to have this idea of femininity and masculinity appointed to both of them, to try to subvert it.

But with that tends to not only come these conclusions of gender —on an, again, genderless species— but also this supposed heteronormativity. As in, we tend to suppose in a relationship, even if not fully calling it a straight relationship, this idea that we need to have these opposite sides of the spectrum of femininity/masculinity clear. That there needs to be this binary within a relationship, even when trying to subvert it.

But we're more often than not seeing it, when turned human (as a lot of fanarts of AU has) as a heterosexual relationship. Again doing the whole gender thing and then putting it together with heteronormativity.

To me this feels like it could come from this idea that for one, we have very much normalized this as the standard, and we've come to associate Rocky with Grace, who's a man. And putting together our heteronormative and binary subconscious ideologies, and fully only having Rocky interact with a man the whole movie can be the reason.

As for one, the movie uses he/him pronouns for him. And socially we have been used to seeing only friendships with your own gender, and any crossover being seen as cheating/intrinsically romantic/sexual, with no platonic option if none are confirmed to only like the same gender.

But then I realized. Do Monsters have similar or exact 1:1 cultural ideas of gender as Humans do?

Trigger warning for sexual harassment.

Rowling despises teenage girls with traditionally feminine interests. She only treats those who don’t want to be like “other girls” or the pick-me girls well in the narrative. It’s clear she projects a deeply personal issue onto certain female archetypes, which makes me think she must have a lot of unresolved resentment, probably dating back to her childhood. She portrays Lavender as foolish for being desperate over Ron, when in reality, that’s not foolish at all—it’s completely normal for a teenage girl experiencing her first relationship and not knowing how to handle her emotions. She also mocks Lavender and the Patil twins’ interests, like Divination, girls’ magazines, or gossip, as if those things were inherently frivolous and shallow. It’s as if being a girl and enjoying “girly” things automatically makes you stupid or as if femininity itself is incompatible with having depth and other, more “serious” interests.

Likewise, through Harry’s praise of Ginny for not crying—contrasted with Cho, who does—she implies that sentimentality, emotional expression, or a lack of self-control are negative traits, while repressing emotions (which is traditionally associated with masculinity) is a positive thing that makes you “tougher” or “stronger.” Narratively, Rowling always favors Hermione for “not being like other girls” and turns Ginny into the ultimate pick-me girl. She’s a character who barely matters or has any relevance throughout the series until she suddenly transforms into the perfect cishet teenage boy fantasy: the girl who is super hot and sexually desirable but at the same time doesn’t waste time with “girly stuff” because she’s too busy acting just as aggressive as any macho guy, being hyper-focused on sports, and being “one of the boys,” cracking jokes, being rough, and acting cool. She’s a girl bro, the embodiment of the perfect woman according to male fantasy, not female. It’s as if she were designed by a hormone-driven teenage boy rather than a woman in her thirties.

Monster Prom changed my life and impacted my life just as much, if not more than Danganronpa and made me realise I'm not cis at all. And one of those reasons.

Was Milo Belladonna.

(Abs are slightly edited for my guilty pleasure. Ahem)

For those who don't know anything bout them or the game they originated in, the Monster Prom series is a visual dating series where ya can date monsters and hook up with them. The series is rather colorful and has plenty of black humor and yet still charming and down to earth regardless, with so much love behind the series.

Now Milo Belladonna is a reaper and a non-binary influencer, who is extremely proud and haughty, but also gentle and caring and encouraging too. When I first met em I did dig their design but I grew to love em for a number of reason.

The first, was their voice. Being voiced by NB VA Casey Mongillo is certainly a plus for any character, especially for a queer one. It's just so charming and soft spoken, while still being firm and strong to boot.

The second reason is....how Milo defies gender entirely.

How Milo defies gender entirely and deconstructs it

When you look at Milo, you see both a blend of masculine and feminine qualities. Masculine wise their body is lean and sturdy, along with their short hair and usually masculine attire. Feminine wise though they have painted nails, cute clothing and pose suggestively. (Note: I'm not saying that those qualities are exclusive to their most common forms, it's just an example.)

When looking at Milos other outfits, they range from firm clothing to beautiful dresses. They defy gender and I love them for that. They show us, just how unique and individual we can truly be, if we let go off those norms. Not that it's bad to follow them, if they suit you. Nothing wrong with being cis or straight, whatever makes ya happy. Its about how you live your life in the end and ya should never live it in fear. But that's not the only reason I love them. I also do, because..

... they represent true freedom,

something we all aspire to be. Not bound by any rules or norms, but to be your own true self. And Milo being a reaper encapsulates that especially, because we only do live once (or not, depending on your religious beliefs).

If we do not make the best of our lives then what's the point?

Milo already realised that and thanks to that, they are so confident and free, dancing like leaves in the wind and following the flow of life itself. To go with the current yet to remain firm.

I love that about them. Whenever I see em I blush...I love them. To think that fiction can have such an effect on me, shows how powerful fictional characters can be, even if they are not sentient.

But I digress. Thanks to Milo I begin to realise what living truly means and for that I'm grateful for it.

Thank you Milo. And thank you Casey for doing wonderful work ^^ (Not that you'll read this but still)

Thanks ^^