How tragedy can feed into my love for yearning, tension, hurt/comfort, and fluff in lgbtq media:
There's a way to do good tragedy when it comes to lgbtq media and there's a way to do bad tragedy in lgbtq media, which is actually just bury your gays/gay people cant have nice things trope. How to do good tragedy in lgbtq media: letting the gays be together and having good moments which stretch. Horror and foreign dramas/cdramas know how to do this really well. What I mean by this is, let the lgbtq couple actually be together and enjoy being together for a long stretch of time before jumping into the tragedy. So no one can link the tragic event to them being gay, it's just the side effect of the genre they are in(Horror, supernatural show, a tragedy, foreign drama/cdrama, a combination of all four). Some really good media have the couple be together and be happy for years even before the event of the tragedy happens. So again it's showing they are not being punished for being gay, it's just again their story for them has to end in a tragedy because it's a side effect of being in a tragedy. Cdrama's what I love(but I know they have to put up with/be really creative with because of censorship laws) get really creative because a lot of it is fantasy. So even when you have the tragic event happens, that's not the end end because in a lot of these shows reincarnation exists, magic exists where you can resurrect people, being a ghost exists, being reborn as a god or demon exists, so even if the shows ends in tragedy of them dying, the possibility of them being able to come back and be together is implied, so post canon they can see each other again and have a happy ending. Another thing I love about cdramas is again because of the magic of said shows, and because the shows are so long. The tragedy can happen in the middle and than the character(s) who died can come back and than the show can have a happy ending for realsies. So in a way you get the best of both worlds and it makes sense because it's a cdrama( the untamed did this really well. I got to have my tragedy with wangxian, and I also got to have that end scene where they reunite and be together). Another way to use the tragedy trope in the media is that you go in knowing its a tragedy, but the tragedy usually doesn't happen till the end or implied off screen. So in a way again you get the happy ending with the tragic ending because eventually all things end. But that doesn't change the fact that their ending was happy. They got to be together and live happy for a life time. And a final way to do this really well is where one of them is immortal and the other isn't. So they both go into this knowing it has a tragic end, but they are doing it anyway because the happiness they have together matters more than the eventual separation. It's a great way to do forbidden tragic love without it again being about them being a lgbtq couple, and doesn't punish them for being a lgbtq couple. So it makes every little thing they do have more tension, have more passion, and be more meaningful because there's an imaginary ticking clock in the background haunting them. But they ignore it because again that's how strong this moment right now is. They will forever be in this moment in time and nothing can touch that. So yeah that's how lgbtq media can have good tragedy in it without having it be insulting and kick you while your down.
