#fierabreeze

I think they would all become friends (: and tenya and tensei would both be sceptical at first, but upon seeing deku’s willpower, would believe in him and even help him train to be stronger -Matty

thank you sm for liking that idea!! i think that tensei may have some doubts about it, since he is a hero and has seen first hand the things that heroes must face. he may even be a little bit worried about him, since it would obviously be even more dangerous to be a hero without a quirk, and i’m sure over the course of being tenya’s friend, tensei would be able to get close to izuku as well. but i also believe that tensei would still support him in his dreams, not wanting to break the kid’s heart but also hoping he will some day prove him wrong. 

Give Me Pain Or Give Me Death

Hello! I will preface this by saying that I struggle with socialising and connecting with people in general (and my chronic pain makes it harder still). I’ll talk about the things that have gotten me the wonderful connections I do have here, though, and if folks want to add onto this post with what’s worked for them, please do so. I think how to find other people is a skill tough for anyone and tougher by far for autistics.

Firstly, the tag that’s for conversations about autism by autistics here on Tumblr is #actuallyautistic or #actually autistic. If you have a question, or you want to see what other autistics are talking about, please feel free to check out and post in that tag (first five tags on a post that doesn’t contain a non-Tumblr link, otherwise Tumblr won’t pick it up). Folks who are self-diagnosed are absolutely welcome to use the #actuallyautistic tag, and the vast majority of autistics aren’t here for policing it. It just came into being to separate autistics talking autism from allistic parents/relatives/teachers talking autism.

It’s quite common for autistics who want an answer to post a question to that tag–I’ve done it for “hey, is this an autism thing” questions a few times now. Also for complaints, discussions, recommendations and ableism frustration posts. Other folks post art, positivity, sensory hacks, stimming–anything they think other autistics will find useful or relevant. I’ve never seen anyone object to other autistics reblogging, discussing and interacting on their posts in that tag, as long as everybody keeps it respectful–and I find the autistic community, in the main, to be decent about that.

Secondly, please feel free to talk about your own experiences and feelings on your journey as an autistic, because most of us relate hard to these sorts of conversations. Talk about the positives, the frustrations, the random, the odd, anything. Honestly, I think I’ve found most of my followers and friends by having opinions and voicing them here! There’s risks in that, but the positive conversations and interactions far, far outweigh the negative ones, and it is wonderful to find people sharing my feelings or building on my discussions.

Validation in what we think and feel and know isn’t something we autistics tend to get from allistic society, be we diagnosed or undiagnosed, and I think for this reason autistic folks gladly work to provide it to other autistics.

Thirdly, please feel free to make your own corner of the autistic community. If you want to make a stim blog or an information blog or a positivity blog or a special interest sharing blog, do so. If you see a way in which the community isn’t filling your needs, or you just want to add to the communities that already exist because there’s no such thing as too many blogs, consider this your invitation to give us more spaces to play in. People do come and follow; I’ve people I consider friends–to the point where my life is so much better for having gotten to know them–from my stim blog.

I was thinking the other night–after I told everybody to support autistic creators–that there isn’t much in the way of creativity and media blogs that focus on autistic creators as a sub-community. There’s blogs like @neurodivergent-media​ which look at neurodiversity in fictional media, but not a lot in the way of connecting autistic creators (writers, artists, crafters, musicians, filmmakers, designers, etc) as a group to autistic audiences. I’m sure that’s not the only corner of the autistic community in want of someone stepping in and building it!

Lastly, I’ve listed a few different interaction-heavy and community blogs:

@sbroxman-autisticquestions asks questions about all manner of autistic experiences that autistic people are encouraged to reblog and answer. If you want to get to know other autistic folks, see what they’re saying about autism and autistic experiences, and join in on the conversations yourself, this is a good blog to follow.

If you have questions, you might want to check out @autism-asks​ or @autistickitten​, both of which answer a lot of different questions about autism.

If you’re wanting to know if a particular trait or experience is autistic or related to autism, try @isthisanautistictrait​ and @isthisanautismthing​.

If you want life hacks or information about sensory issues, try @autisticlifehack​ or @sensorypeople​.

For meaningful discussions about social skills tailored for ND people that also addresses the ableism behind how social skills are often taught and applied, I really like @realsocialskills​.

If you want blogs about stim toys, given that many of us stim, check out @stimreferenceblog​, @punkrockstimming​, @safechewablethings​, @yellows-stim-toy-hoarde​ and my own blog @stimtoybox​. If you want more general stimming blogs, try @stims-inc​ and @slimeandspice​.

(If you want a list of autistic stim toy vendors, here’s my master post to get you started.)

@pro-autistic​ and @sweet-autism-things​ are more general autism positivity and support blogs.

@butterflyinthewell​ and @neurowonderful​ are autistic personages of note that talk a lot about autism, autistic media, autistic experiences and autistic advocacy, but also tend more towards the conversational.

Honestly, my best recommendation for finding a place in the community, at least as it exists here on Tumblr, is something simple in theory and far more difficult in practice: be yourself. Talk about who you are as an autistic, what you feel, what you need. Talk about the ways your feelings match those of the community and those that don’t. Talk, and tag it, and respond to posts you find relevant or interesting, and people will find you interesting (because you are). Every autistic has something important to offer and important to say. Every autistic is vital to the community. The good thing about Tumblr is that, unlike a face-to-face conversion, you can take time to think and word; you can pass over posts you don’t want to interact with and focus on the ones you do. It might take time for you to find your place, but it will happen.

Please know that you are an important part of the autistic community and your experiences and thoughts are important and needed. You do not have to be posting every day with thousands of followers to be part of the community. You just have to be autistic.

Under the cut I’ve written a few paragraphs on safety, given that this is Tumblr:

Anastasia sits down next to Dana and hugs her. "You are very, very loved, young one."