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1. Alters are separate individuals with little to no connection / Alters experience black out amnesia when they are not fronting 

I see this pair rather often online, and the first half almost always comes with a caveat that the individuals in the system are capable of relationships that directly mirror those of external sorts (siblings, parents, boyfriends and girlfriends, etcetera). Although this may be true for some systems (I personally would wager that it occurs more earlier on in recovery when there is less global integration of alters), the latter stages of internal mapping make relationships muddy. Most people have confusing relationships with their parts that involve a lot of shame on both ends. It's important to remember that the long-term relationships you have with your parts is permanent, and it's important to try and act in accordance to this knowledge. 

2. "Grey-out Amnesia" versus Black-out Amnesia

There's a lot of discussion of grey-out versus black-out amnesia, and I think that calls for a tangent on - 

> What is amnesia? 

Amnesia occurs when there is an inability to explicitly recall information that should otherwise be known

"Grey-out amnesia" (perhaps better known as emotional amnesia, derealization, depersonalization, or partial dissociation) is considered a level below full "black-out" dissociation. All of the above are common symptoms in Complex Dissociation, and distinguishing between them is difficult even for the individual experiencing it. Amnesia can go unknown by both patient and support system (including clinicians) for years and even decades, labelled as the person being indecisive, bipolar, borderline, or obsessive (think about how different clinicians may perceive a double checking symptom, as an instance), and it's widely accepted in clinical spheres that this is the primary reason that Dissociative Identity Disorder as a whole was perceived as covert. 

From my own experience, I consider myself to be far more overt than I actually am. Those who live with me and know me well still are not able to tell my switches unless they have had extensive time to attune to them. My own Mother told me that as a child she knew she had to approach me in different ways, but that she didn't know it was me switching. Even now, even with the new tools, she cannot reliably tell switches other than our child alters - the ones she spent the most time around. 

On the other side of this coin, of course, there are systems that are more overt than they believe. I personally would say that this occurs more in earlier staged recovery than later. This form of amnesia can be particularly difficult to deal with, as recollection of any collaboration between parts becomes difficult to recall willingly. This sort of amnesia can be particularly frustrating to deal with, and may be aided by extensive journalling (I like having a physical notebook I can take record on). 

All this to say, that there is often overlap in these seperate types of dissociation, and where these overlaps occur the most frequently may help individuals identify what stage of recovery themself or their part may be in. 

Black-out amnesia is often portrayed as being alter-tied, but we've noticed that this is not always the case. This paradigm is often seen in earlier stages of recovery, but in middle to late recovery these "grey-outs" are more likely to be events and emotions based. (Disclaimer: any and all events and emotions that cannot be actively and healthily integrated into the current concept of Self are dissociated when that is the habituated behaviour). 

3. Alters are inherently secretive

This one is a big one I see on a certain platform, and it's simply not true! Many alters exist and come into existence as a response to bein unheard or being forced to keep secrets, and may present with oversharing habits or excessive vulnerability (emotional whoring, as my alters call it) when meeting new people or even when being introduced into the wider system. Alters who are hiding things often present with a tough exterior, playing the protector, but a very important part of trauma recovery is acknowledging that these parts are not required to keep these secrets to maintain the happiness and health of the system, but that the entire group and collective are here to share that burden and help one another. 

4. The DSM-V as a source

THE HEART OF MAN WILL BREAK BEFORE THE BODY

HIS CHEST SHALL BE FILLED WITH WIRES AND ELECTRIC PUMPS

ALONG WITH WARM RAYS OF FLUORESCONT LIGHT BELOW THE SKIN UNTO HEAT THE BLOOD

RELEASE MAN FROM IT'S SHELL AND THE LIGHT SHALL BE BEAUTIFUL

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"SPEAKING."

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Hi, it's me, @mod-sol. Mhmm, the guy who runs The Little Poet.

Just felt like making AM an ask blog. I don't know why, just felt like it, but I also love IHNMAIMS. Will update more in the future.