I want to be the kind of mom where my kids' friends see me as another mother figure. I'm gonna treat them as my own. Feed them, make sure they got home safely, and discipline them when they act out.
I want my kids to be able to come talk to me about everything especially the things I couldn't with my parents. Sex, drugs, drinking, relationships, friendships, insecurities etc. I don't want my children to fear me and feel like they can't talk to me so that they have to figure things out on their own.
I want to prepare my kids to be self-sufficient. I don't want them to feel like they can't do things without me like scheduling a doctor's appointment, paying bills, maintaining a car and apartment etc. I won't push college as the only means to success but if they decide to attend, I'll give them the real pros and cons of going to college. Ultimately, I want to raise children who won't be followers and will think and research on their own.