#false apologies

But I saw this list, and tumbling back down into my SPoP slash Season 5 Catra salt I was just “Yeah, that’s clear and concise, how many of these did Season 5 hit??”

The list is: “The Five Rules of a Shit Apology”

Don’t actually Apologize!

Emotional Appeal

Strawman your Detractors / Gatekeep

Play Semantic Games to Aid your Nonapology

Switch Roles with the Victims of your Behavior.

Thoughts re: this list and Catra’s “Redemption”?

Also: DARVO, for anyone not familiar with this concept.

Should I build up the energy to put up what came to my mind for each point?

(And I still haven’t seen the entire show let alone all of Season 5, although I’ve done my best to watch clips of the relevant scenes…)

I’ll link the video I took this from below the cut, as well as an accountant’s take on publicly available information that supports the initial “whistle blowers” as being correct that “The Math doesn’t Math.”

Because I know there are some people who will not agree with me on which side I’m on in this particular “drama,” but to me the evidence that has been provided shows either extreme incompetence (which lead to fraud through neglect) or, given the entirety of the evidence, willful misrepresentation.

So for those unaware, i had a fallout with a friend where i tried avoiding an argument by saying agree to disagree as i didn't want to argue, but he pushed forward to an argument, when i said i was tired he then said we were only arguing because i was tired, and that i started the argument, so he literally tried gaslighting me. He wouldn't allow i word i said because anything i said was main stream and corrupt, he insulted a load of people in my life, he said some horrible things, he acted like i had been this awful person to him when even others had pointed out how supportive i had been to him lately. Like, truly awful

Anyway, i bumped into him today and he said "Look, i don't hold grudges, i don't hold anger, I'm not mad still about things that you said. So i am hoping you are the same and we can talk again". Did you notice 3 things? One, he never said sorry. He said it like an apology, but he never apologised. Two, and this is the big one, did you notice how everything in his "apology" was on me? It was a grudge against me and what i said and did, it was anger at me for what i said and did, he even said he was not mad about the things i said. Just like he did in the argument, he placed it all on me. Three, "I hope you are the same and we can talk again" that is a not so subtle way of trying to guilt trip me, he is acting like he is holier than thou, and by saying "i am hoping you are the same", that is saying that by not accepting his invitation to welcome him back into my life, i am an angry, begruding person who holds hatred for others and cannot forgive others. He then continues that by reinforcing "we can talk again" by saying the reason we won't talk again is on me, it is my fault we will not talk, again, because i am an angry person who cannot forgive others "unlike him".

When i obviously told him no and said i am angry still over what he said and did, he said "Really? But it was so long ago!", one, it wasn't. Two, again, if there was any acknowledgement of his actions (which there wasn't still), he immediately tried negating it by saying it had been a while, thus i should be over it, and if I'm not that's a problem with me.