Sooo. I made a new term.
Exoqueer/Exowoke 🛸🍓.
A 'radqueer' position that is grounded in ethical nuance, harm-reduction, therapy advocacy, and knowledge seeking in and around dark, marginalised, or demonised experiences - without endorsing abuse, contact, or romanticisation of harm.
Exoqueers or exowoke individuals are pro;
- Pro-consent, no matter contact stance
- pro therapy for paraphiles
- pro therapy for traumatised/coping darkshippers
- pro therapy for transID individuals
- pro education on proshipping, darkshipping, paraphilias, transIDS
- pro transIDs while transitioning and exploring ethically
- pro fictional exploration (basically pro darkship)
- pro art therapy
- pro xeno/neogenders and pronouns
- pro (researched) self-diagnosis
And are anti;
- anti paraphilic demonisation
- anti romanticisation of abuse and dark topics IRL
- ethical exploration of taboos
- anti-harassment (proship)
- judging a person based on actions (to/around real beings) not how they identify
Exoqueers do not align with MAP/Zoo/Necro pride (Although we support paraphilias, it is not the same as LGBTQ+ pride and should not be considered the same), and aim to educate themselves and others on marginalised and demonised topics, experiences, and coping mechanisms. However, they are against the demonisation of paraphilias.
A big thing about being exo is being anti-harassment and pro-education. Even if you understand, like, or even support or accept something, you live and let live as long as no actual harm is coming to real beings.
TransIDS/TransX identities and experiences are nuanced. They can be explored safely and respectfully, but many transX individuals should also seek psychologist's input to better understand themselves and even help with dysphoria and transitioning.
Exos are outside the "pro vs anti ship" binary, believing all beliefs and identities have a logical basis and nuance to them that is often overlooked.
Quotes to live by;
"Darkshipping is a good coping mechanism, but one must just be wary that they are healing the wound and not surviving in it"
"Nothing is black and white, everything has shades of grey"
Flag;
- deep red for exploration of dark or disturbing topics
- ochre to represent grounding in reality, understanding, and creative freedom (as it is often used as a natural paint colour)
- Soft blue and pink to represent all experiences within dark or demonised topics and how they can be comforting to explore. Also represents the younger generations in the communities
- Green for being outside of the binary and having an "alien" look at things, being outside of the norm
- Blue for logic, reasoning, and education
Emojis 🛸🍓;
- UFO represents being out of the binary (like the green)
- strawberry connects to radqueer beliefs.
It could also be called “nuancequeer” I guess?
