#enben

Finding another nonbinary person irl is like finding a four leaf clover. Like, yeah I know you exist but I was never expecting to actually see you

everytime a nonbinary person realizes they don't have to be transfem or transmasc an angel gains its wings. like, there's sooo much more. you could be both, transneutral, transandrogynous, transnull, transxenine, transxenoine, transoutherine, or maybe all of them or none of them.

also i'm not gonna lie, lately i've been having some self hating thoughts irt to being nonbinary. i think bc my family wasn't supportive of it when i tried coming out a few years ago and they still aren't so it's like, sinking in that i have no one irl that is accepting of me. i could "ignore" it when i was trying to go by any pronouns & see myself as partially cis but now that i'm not, the illusion is broken again and it hurts. i keep wishing i could be "normal" and i have tried multiple times to just be cis or binary trans but it isn't me. (my family likely wouldn't accept binary trans either tho.) ik there is nothing wrong with it but damn when i have no support irl and i also see a shit ton of exorsexism even from fellow queer ppl, it gets to me. like straight up sometimes i wanna be dead bc of this. hmm. idk how to end this post. just depressed as hell that ppl like me are still treated like shit, ya know

I genuinely do not understand the vitriol people — even other enben — have for the terms trixic, toric, etc. Nobody is saying “you have to use these words because you are nonbinary and you can’t describe yourself any other way”. There is simply a good chunk of us who feel like terms such as “lesbian” and “gay” are too binarizing for us. It’s not going to kill you to learn the terms that enben are using to describe their relationships. It really just reads as incredibly exorsexist. How can you say you support nonbinary people while insisting they don’t make more inclusive terms for themselves when they feel it’s necessary? Have you ever considered that we might want to create our own space instead of having to carve ourselves one inside of binary labels?

hey girl did you unpack that exorsexism yet? oh no it's nothing it's just that i noticed you use transfem to refer exclusively to trans women who were amab and you really dislike the idea of men doing anything with their femininity but discarding it or becoming women and you also think there has to be a "real" (cis) way to experience a gender under the patriarchy that you can say happens to you to justify your transhood which as a concept simply doesn't exist for nonbinary people who do not have one (cis) "nonbinary experience". but i'm sure that's nothing.