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Why a pairing of Kiara and JJ would hardly work under real-life circumstances

Screenwriters love messy romantic storylines because drama sells and keeps us all on the edge of our seats. Complicated relationships filled with "OMG, did that just happen?" moments push characters to grow and show off their deeper sides, making them more relatable. Plus, they mirror our own love life dramas (or lack thereof) and give us an escape from reality. The whole "will they or won’t they" vibe keeps us binge-watching season after season, completely invested in their rollercoaster romance.

But let's get real for a sec—these chaotic love stories shouldn't be your blueprint for a real-life relationship.

That being said, it might not be the popular opinion, but Kiara would be the worst match for JJ. In real life, their relationship would quickly go downhill, and here's why:

JJ's been crushing on Kiara since Season 1. His feelings have been solid, even while she was off exploring things with John B. and Pope even though she often treated him badly, commenting on almost all of his actions with sarcasm and disregard.

There are a lot of examples, especially in the first two seasons, where Kiara is being disrespectful and sarcastic towards JJ. It actually seems like she doesn't care for him at all

That's why Kiara’s sudden interest in JJ, after her flings with the other guys, raises some eyebrows. Is she really into JJ, or is this about rebelling against her parents or wanting a “fixer-upper” project?

JJ and Kiara would make a perfect example for a toxic relationship

Kiara's and JJ's core personalities and backgrounds clash in fundamental ways. JJ, with his ADHD-like tendencies, impulsive nature, and carefree, rebellious attitude, often acts without thinking, seeking thrills and living in the moment. This behavior is in stark contrast to Kiara’s strong morals, rule-following disposition, and the disciplined upbringing she received from her wealthy household and good education. While JJ's spontaneity might seem exciting, it conflicts with Kiara’s structured approach to life.

Kiara is feeding into JJ's insecurities

She tends to be judgmental, especially towards behaviors that deviate from her values, which can make it hard for her to fully understand or accept JJ’s way of coping with his challenges.

JJ grew up in an abusive household with a neglectful and violent father. This messed up his self-esteem, emotional health, and understanding of relationships. He’s conditioned to accept unhealthy dynamics and put others first, often at his own expense.

Kiara, on the other hand, had a cushy, stable upbringing with overprotective parents. This gave her strong convictions and a clear sense of right and wrong but also left her with high expectations and a need to maintain a certain image.

Kiara’s strong will and idealism can sometimes make her judgmental and inflexible, especially toward those who don't see things her way.

Opposites attract: the more differences, the better the story

She might struggle to fully get the depth of JJ's trauma and how it shapes his behavior. His impulsiveness and reckless behavior, driven by a need to survive his trauma, often clash with Kiara's moral convictions. His actions aren't about seeking admiration but about finding safety and acceptance.

JJ's and Kiara's values are constantly clashing

JJ’s low self-esteem, need for validation, and history of emotional neglect make him vulnerable to falling into the same victim role he’s known all his life. Kiara’s strong personality and occasional self-righteous streak could unintentionally exploit JJ’s compulsive selflessness and lack of boundaries.

Is there really more to the chemistry between JJ and Kiara other than just physical attraction?

So, unless JJ takes some serious time for personal growth, gets to know himself and his boundaries, and learns what healthy relationships actually look like, jumping into a romance with Kiara too soon is basically setting himself up to fall right back into the emotional traps he’s trying to escape.

It felt like I broke up with someone when Kaye had no choice but to agree being in a commitment with someone who pushes it thru harassment. It leaves Kaye no choice because life was on line.

I could not stop imagining things and I was asking myself why am I imagining so much. I was imagining scenarios now that they are technically committed, regardless on how they agreed on it.

I have cried three times because of Kaye. One, is because everything will change once they are in a relationship. She’ll be locked pleasing that person because she commits to that. Two, we cant have our normal lives talking our way the way we were all this time. It was really painful on my part to have lost the battle of convincing Kaye not to do it. More often than not, at the end of the day, I still thought the she’ll choose that someone over someone that understands her more than anyone, that is, me. 

Gusto ko nalang isipin na hindi naman ako nagkulang and naging masamang tao kay Kaye sakaling dumating ang araw na talagang bitawan na nya. Worst case scenario prep, kumbaga. Kaya nga hindi ako pwede maging emotionally dependent sakanya kasi tao lang rin si Kaye, it makes her limited. Ngayon pa nga lang, pinili na nya ang mali just to have time to breath.

Di mo talaga mabibli ang peace of mind.

I told her, dahil sa nangyari, natakot na ko lalo maattach sa tao. Kasi alam mo yun, kahit ikaw ang nasa tama, hindi naman parin pipiliin, dahil sa circumstances.

Minsan I was asking why am I pushing myself too hard para piliin ang views ko ni Kaye.

Ah. Maybe because she cant see what’s real and what’s not. And sayang kasi ang pagkatao niya that she gives it to someone na uubusin lang siya.

From now on, I must release myself from that dependency, kasi masyado mabigat and masakit yung iniyak ko nung thursday night, October 10. I told myself, ang dami kong pagsisisi... Pagsisisi na bakit ba ko naattach ng ganto sa taong may complicated na situation. 

Resignation was always an option sa akin. Hindi ko kasi kayang matanggap yung situation.

But I was telling myself that my value must not stop at someone who did not chose what I tell her is right. My family loves me, most of the people of work loves me, does not want me to leave because they believe in me. 

Kung sakali man dumating ang araw na hindi maging unfavorable sa akin, which I think will happen, that must be at a point were I am ready to release myself from this emotional attachment.