#dontrape

Bye.

This.

We need to have conversation about black women protecting black men who rape. They are essentially the gatekeepers of rape culture. Watch the language: "she just wants attention," "what about the Harvey Weinstein," "she's just out for money," or "look at how she dresses." These are all part of the passiveness that goes on in our community. Can't be too "woke" if you stay sleep on that "uncle" who keeps touching that 10-year-old you call "fast." I was violated at 10 and again at 21. I was in the same toxic relationship with different men since the moment I began dating. Read that again. F THAT! 🗣IT IS TIME TO TALK ABOUT IT!!! My sisters, it's time we heal, find our voices, USE our voices and stop the cycle of SILENCE. Social media is the seedy underbelly if this victim blaming. I waste NO time correcting and illuminating. I'm not anti-black men. I am ANTI-ABUSE. I am ANTI-RAPE CULTURE. I am against patriarchy. I am a feminist. I am a womanist. I am black. I am woman. I am human. RESPECT THAT SHIT. #DONTRAPE #PROTECTBLACKWOMEN #ENDRAPECULTURE https://www.instagram.com/p/B6JNUtzJXlzjcDET-jnyAkeKO4Jhf6n85_9uUM0/?igshid=16yqbm2euzl78

The patriarchy killed my remaining ovary, and I am now officially menopausal. I’m 42, and this is my fifth lady bits surgery; that includes two c-sections, resulting in all the babies I ever wanted, and I consider myself fortunate. The freak torsion injury ending my ovary bookends my first surgery when I was 17, when a freak torsion injury ended my other ovary. My fourth surgery was a hysterectomy at the same hospital I’m in now, which is also where I was born. It’s all rather poetic, or tragic if you consider the sexual violence I experienced from infancy through adolescence. It is my firm belief that I would have forgone the vast majority of this pain, and the coinciding and gradual dismantling of my female anatomy if those men had not repeatedly brutalized me as a child. But here I am, just before sunrise, overlooking the King and Queen on the Northside of Atlanta. I’m feeling well and strong and hopeful, and am looking forward to avenging my body and mind. #killthepatriarchy #dontrape #imcomingforyou #vengeanceismine #kingandqueen (at Northside Hospital Women's Center) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpRe3VUgmUv/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=r24e9djmxwvs

I had a hell of a convo with my daughter yesterday about the rape culture we live in. I know that she’s a fighter because that’s how she’s been raised but I know that won’t protect her from predators. The way I was raised was different and it wasn’t until I was 29 that I told anyone anything... 14 years after the fact because I was so afraid of being blamed because what did I expect would happen when I was alone with a boy? I hope she knows that, if god forbid she’s in a similar situation, she will be supported and believed. Also, I’ve seen her drop people almost double her size because tkd so that makes me feel a tiny bit better. There’s so much I’ve had to tell her that I’ve only told my ex and my therapist and much more that I hope she never knows. #believesurvivors #dontrape #consentissexy https://www.instagram.com/p/BoREXIenK6O/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ifkvekcvgkcv

Do you agree? I do... #nomorerape #rapeculture #justdontrape #dontrape #doyoureallyhavetobetold #sleepingbeardunes #inmylight #tanisjustice @design_yourown_life (at Corvallis, Oregon) https://www.instagram.com/p/BoK7S5EhZqM/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1mso6hxeg5jcq

Some helpful tips on not reaping someone!!!! Stole this from my friend @lilybella! #stoprape #dontrape #handstoyourself https://www.instagram.com/p/BmJSiqglqh7oVsmVE0OBVlmNqUQwLMhIk3mEFk0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1idhgvqitk8p7

It's pretty easy. #dontrape #dontexcuserape