#disidentification

The closer you get to the Self, the simpler things become.

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Quando ti rendi conto che la maggior parte dei tuoi problemi deriva dalle convinzioni con cui ti identifichi, capisci anche che il primo passo per risolverli è semplicemente intraprendere il percorso inverso: la disidentificazione. Può sembrare "troppo comoda", "troppo riduttivo" o "troppo superficiale"... ma è così.

Più ti avvicini al Sé più le cose diventano semplici.

Buddha is a myth but myths encode negation.

The figure of the Buddha is not evidence that enlightenment is real. He is the symbol for the negation of animalistic drives in man. He is a fiction built around the absence of desire. He does not exist because he cannot.

But the paradox is that he needs to exist as a symbol, because people need to imagine that insincts and desires can be overcome. Even if this is false, it gives form to the dream of disidentification from nature.

No one since Buddha in thousand of generations has been like him because it is the myth. But millions still spend their entire lives in lotus because they want to be Buddha to be free from their animalistic drives.

1) Selective identification. Become The Buddha or the Christ and ignore the aspect in you that is in pain. You chose the projector you want to see life through. Amputate the part in you that is not enlightened. The one in you that believes in your little story. Switch your perspective. (Byron Katie, Marianne Williamson, Tony robbins )

2) Dis identify with everything. No integration. No self. No pain. Only The present moment (Eckhart Tolle, Buddha). 

3) Know thy self. Dis identify with all parts of you by (ironically) being present with every single one of them. Re integrate all the parts in you to know thy self. Get to know your shadow self. Be with your pain, not in order to get out of the pain, but to practice unconditional presence with you. And in that way get rid of all the parts in you that were not real to begin with. Your ego/ neurosis will dissipate and you will become an unique authentic expression of Source it self. Not necessary in happiness (same side of the coin of unhappiness by the way), but in peace with you and everything that is. (Teal Swan, Alice Miller, Carl Jung, Alexander Lowen) 

Disidentify without dissociating

You don’t believe in the narrative anymore like marriage as eternal love, religion as salvation, art as expression of a “self. they are not and you know that. But you don’t reject them either. You see they are structures, and you use them.

Marriage can be not only transaction. Religion becomes a calming and awe-inspiring system. Art serves useful aesthetics.

Radical Recognition

I don’t have to like desire.

But I can stop hating that it exists.

It’s like the ocean’s waves—I can’t “fix” the ocean.

I know it’s endless motion.

I stop fighting the fact of waves.

Micro-Disidentification

When a desire arises (hunger, loneliness, boredom), I notice: “This is desire arising. It is nature at work. It is not my personal failure.”

I observe it without fusing into it.

I feel it without believing it has to be satisfied immediately.

Calm Non-Compliance

Not every desire needs to be obeyed.

Some I satisfy (I eat when hungry).

Some I let pass (I don’t jump into every craving or fear).

This builds freedom inside striving.

Meditative Recollection of Substance

I regularly remind myself: “Everything moves like this. I am not an exception.”

Trees reaching for sun, animals hunting, rivers cutting stone—it’s all the same desperate dance.