how to free yourself from people pleasing permanentlyβ.ΰ³ΰΏ*:ο½₯π¨π
if ur done living for the approval of others, feeling the pressure of always having to make everyone else happy while neglecting yourself then this post is for youβ¦π¬π
BE SELF AWARE ;
the first step to change is becoming aware of ur behavior. do u say yes even when u really wanna say no? do u constantly walk on eggshells in the fear of being misunderstood? do you water urself down to be digestible to people? if u answered yes to any of these questions, chances are u have people pleasing tendencies.
WHY DO WE PEOPLE PLEASE? ;
a lot of us learnt people pleasing as a survival mechanism. we started people pleasing to fit in, or maybe we were taught from an early age that being a "good person" meant keeping everyone happy but yourself, and that love was conditional.
THE STEPS TO TAKE ;
change ur environment - if u cannot change ur environment drastically u can always change little things about it, for example changing the people you talk with everyday, taking new routes, putting yourself in new environments and planning ur next big moves
reconnect with ur authentic self - journal, reflect, be alone. figure out whatΒ youΒ like, want, need. people pleasing disconnects you from your own identity, learn who you are WITHOUT the people pleasing performing tendencies
STAND ON BUSINESS ;
to finish off, ur not here to be liked by everyone, some people might get uncomfortable when you stop over-explaining yourself or putting them first, but thatβs not your burden to carry anymore. its ur life so why shouldn't u put urself first?
im not telling u to go out and be a terrible person im telling u to listen to yourself for once. think "what does (insert ur name) want?" instead of what u should do to appease to others. dont overextend urself for crumbs girls. choose you always π
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I know its been a while since I posted a journal entry (9 years to be exact.) So at the start of this year, I said I was going to start to journal again and well 2020 happened. My world was taken by a whirled wind, to say the least (as was everyone one else.)
This year started off with a lot of possibilities, that was soon taken over by the covid19 virus. So they year changed drastically, so much happened: BLM movement, the election, killer hornets, we were basically living a end of days movie. The year proved to be a difficult one, I lost my Grandmother, my two pups, and months later I lost my friend.
As we start 2021, I'm going to try and journal a bit; just the basics or how I'm feeling.
Until later.
Danny
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Day 1-What a difference a year makes. I donβt even know myself anymore.I went from obsessive behavior to a dry abyss. Itβs a blessing.I know. I donβt want to go backwards, i have no regrets. Iβm just lost now.