how to free yourself from people pleasing permanently⋆.ೃ࿔*:・🍨🎀
if ur done living for the approval of others, feeling the pressure of always having to make everyone else happy while neglecting yourself then this post is for you…💬🎀
BE SELF AWARE ;
the first step to change is becoming aware of ur behavior. do u say yes even when u really wanna say no? do u constantly walk on eggshells in the fear of being misunderstood? do you water urself down to be digestible to people? if u answered yes to any of these questions, chances are u have people pleasing tendencies.
WHY DO WE PEOPLE PLEASE? ;
a lot of us learnt people pleasing as a survival mechanism. we started people pleasing to fit in, or maybe we were taught from an early age that being a "good person" meant keeping everyone happy but yourself, and that love was conditional.
THE STEPS TO TAKE ;
change ur environment - if u cannot change ur environment drastically u can always change little things about it, for example changing the people you talk with everyday, taking new routes, putting yourself in new environments and planning ur next big moves
reconnect with ur authentic self - journal, reflect, be alone. figure out what you like, want, need. people pleasing disconnects you from your own identity, learn who you are WITHOUT the people pleasing performing tendencies
STAND ON BUSINESS ;
to finish off, ur not here to be liked by everyone, some people might get uncomfortable when you stop over-explaining yourself or putting them first, but that’s not your burden to carry anymore. its ur life so why shouldn't u put urself first?
im not telling u to go out and be a terrible person im telling u to listen to yourself for once. think "what does (insert ur name) want?" instead of what u should do to appease to others. dont overextend urself for crumbs girls. choose you always 💕
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When you walk down a path do you wonder how the path got there or how it was made? I walk down a path and think this at times. I wonder how long has it been there? Is it a recent pathway or has it been here a while? Does it lead to anything great,? like a grand manor house or mansion or to a forest of trees where you could get lost for days? I love pathways...dirt, graveled pathways or Ohhhh!!, brick, cobblestone pathways! I like to be surprised, so not knowing what I’m going to find makes the path even more intriguing and interesting. Hopefully you come across a pathway like this and you can go on an adventure. Here’s to finding intriguing and fun pathways in our lives!!
I just found my old weheartit blog ! Realizing how much a blog can be a snapshot of the thoughts i had throughout the years, stoping time by creating a way to go back to old paradigms I was in. It feels like i was a total different person, and at the same time i can recognize some constants. I wonder why we have such a need for eternity, even when it’s illusory. I think that’s why i named my blog “ameretat” : the allegory of immortality in ancient Zoroastrianism. I’m looking at the past just because it’s December 30th I guess...
Should I change this blog into a general fandom blog once more so I can include Owl House or should I just make a second blog so my Librarians and Star Trek Fans can find this one? Cause like Multi-Fandom blogs though?
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Its been awhile! I’ve been busy and just haven’t had time to write a proper blog post. I cannot believe that this is the last week of September...so CRAZY! It flew by. I’ve been so busy with modeling and classes, but I’ve really enjoyed the month at the same time. I’ve been following my intentions for September, and I hope you have too! I made a lot of intentions, and I’ve come to terms that I may not be able to accomplish them all. And thats OK! I’ve accomplished most of them :) Always, happy Wednesday, its mid week for many of you, but for me its almost the weekend!!! Only two classes today and one tomorrow AM. Wednesday is my new weekend eve lol. Not too shabby! I’ve been really good lately, working out, eating well, and checking off my “to do” lists. Sometimes my “to do” lists just seem never ending haha. I feel like I keep adding things to them, or whenever I think of something I write it down so that I don’t forget about it in the future. Constant reminders. Its really good to write down your thoughts, or things you need to do whenever they pop in your mind, because when we don’t we end up forgetting...then we get annoyed because we can’t remember that one thing and its bugs us! So my best advice, write it down and save it for later. My notepad is always full of extra thoughts. I still need to post my what I eat in a day post...its long overdue. I told you all weeks ago that I was going to post...but I keep forgetting to take pics of my meals!!! I gotta set a reminder. I guess I’m just so hungry and excited to eat that I forget. lol :) Anyways, I’ve got a lot of blog post ideas brewing...so get ready! I thought I would just check in with you all this lovely Wednesday morning!