#consultjohnwatson

One of the blogs that appeared has been harassing @jaymesyourplaything in comments in the past weeks, even though jay has stated to not want to be included in those conversations anymore and having moved on. The blog kept talking about me, questioning things about me, but clearly taking a stance against me, making rude statements and instead of coming to me asking me those things they went straight for jay since the end of May, harassing them with comments, which is not okay. Jay asked to be left alone, and then got also harassed on their private blogs with rude anon asks yesterday. So I am going to speak up about this. It is disgusting that those people are still harassing someone on several blogs, including their private blogs, who has stated that they want to be left alone. Leave them alone when they say they don't want to talk about it anymore. Let them move on if you cant do it.

The blog only commented one time on my posts this Monday, and blocked me a few hours later without me ever answering them. I will not mention the name of the blog, but most of their posts were criticising me and arguing with people who are on my side. Why does such a blog suddenly appear months later? It seemed as if they have personal stakes in this given that they didn’t make any other text posts or comments except about this scandal and some picture reblogs. Another blog existed with which they discussed but that one was deleted. Furthermore, the blog cosplayed as being French, but they are not, because they have visibly copied and pasted whole french sentences with accents on letters because they do not have those accents on their own laptops language. This is apparent because in their texts they change several times between a straight quotes ' and a curled ’, which is quite apparent in a french sentence they copied because the quotes changed in that part. It is also possible their account is controlled by 2 users, one of them who has their system set to making ' straight quotes while the other user has curled quotes. I will leave you to your own guesses who could be behind that account. 

This was the comment they left on my blog:

This are the comments/ reblogs on jaymesyourplaything posts:

I will comment on their comments and explain what I meant, given that there still seems to be a misunderstanding.

This user seems to be bothered by the fact that I said ‘i did not consent to the split’ (which they brought up after John added this criticism to his statements, the user seems to share the same arguments John used). First of all when you are working on a project together you should inform your partner about your plans of leaving and not abruptly ditch or replace them, that is not how proper cooperation or communication works. They DID NOT communicate about the split or the separation in advance. I did not know about it. This is not how a friend or roleplay partner should be treated.  If you are working with someone together, especially when you are their FRIEND, you should inform them about a separation/replacement in advance instead of lying and misleading.

English is not my native language so I don’t always use the best words, and I thought ‘I did not consent’ was the best way to express it in the most inoffensive way. I did not want to use certain words that would have fitted better to describe what has happened in fear of angering consultjohnwatson’s mod even more, but well he has used endless expletives and other words against me, so I think I should stop to sugarcoat my own words to not offend those people who do not give me the same respect. I will still not use insults, I will just describe more accurately what John has done. 

To more accurately describe what consultjohnwatson's mod did: He lied to me and gaslighted me, purposefully misleading me into believing he would quit Tumblr and promised me he would hand over the blog when he quit (clearly indicating that he would stop using the blog and not continue to use it) while his real plan all along (indicated in messages since september to Jim’s mod and the impostor evidence) to get rid of me, kick me out and replace me with safedistancefrombeingsmart without my knowledge or consent. In the weeks leading up to the split he emotionally abused me and gaslighted me, and in the aftermath publicly abused and bullied me together with safedistancefrombeingsmart.

He lied to me on purpose to make me believe he would quit while his intentions were all along to replace me without informing me and continuing the roleplay with someone else. A plan that he had planned with safedistancefrombeingsmart for months. That’s the issue, he lied to me, gaslighted me, manipulated me and emotionally abused me. The problem is not because ‘he left’ I wish he had just left but the problem is he did not instead he chose to abuse me. By definition he emotionally abused me, doing things to hurt me on purpose, which is abuse. He knew exactly what he was doing would hurt me, from the bullying to the doxxing, it was all planned and calculated to hurt me on purpose, known as abuse.

He did not even leave, I left. He just kicked me out of the roleplay, replacing me, but then he got angry at me for ‘ghosting him’ after he abused me and I just could not write with him anymore without experiencing significant pain. He kept writing me messages, but I did not answer. I knew he had manipulated me and I did not want to give him another opportunity to hurt and manipulate me again so I did not answer anymore, it was to protect myself from his abuse. He claimed I ghosted him, but how can I ghost him when he claims he left first? That does not make any sense. He keeps contradicting himself in every single sentence. He kicked me out of the roleplay and replaced me, so I left our interaction which he still tried to continue in private chat. That’s how it went. 

If you still do not understand the difference between ‘simply leaving’ and what John did, I have an example. Imagine you and a friend built a house together, although it was you who had the original idea of the house, you both worked on it together and built it over 3 years, and have been living there. Suddenly out of the blue your friend says they want to move out, you didnt have any major problems or arguments so you are confused why but you know when they decide on something that they will do it no matter what so you accept, even if it makes you sad to see them leave but you don't stop them or try to convince them otherwise you just offer your help in case they are struggling, but you just want to plan how the moving out process will go. But each time when you ask how or when they will move out, if it's in 1 month or half a year so you can plan for someone else to take their rooms, which they agreed to hand over to a new person, they dont answer and start to avoid your questions and start to argue.

Well one day you come home and someone else is in your house, you dont know whats going on but you think its just a visitor, but the next morning you get locked out of your house, locks changed, a message on your phone ‘well i decided to break it off i hope you respect my decision someone else now gets your rooms’ with no previous warning. They said they wanted to move out, but in reality it was all along a plan to kick you out of your own creation and replace you with someone new. And then in the aftermath without you even saying anything yet they then start publicly posting that you knew and agreed about moving out, that you were so mean to them and thats why they had to kick you out, even though thats all a lie. If kicking you out from your own creation wasnt worse enough, they now have to drag your name into the mud, make you the abuser reverse the roles so if you speak up about what happened no one would believe you. And after speaking out they then start to bully you publicly, get several other people as well involved to bully you, dox personal info and abuse you publicly. I think that is quite a difference between ‘leaving’ or ‘lying to someone and then kicking them out and in the aftermath spreading lies and bullying the person’. 

And I would have not been bothered by him leaving (meaning QUITTING). I was ready for him to quit, I did not try to stop him except asking if he needed some help, if I could support him somehow by taking some work of his shoulders. I just wanted to know the specifics of how the quitting would go so I could assure that the roleplay could continue on without him. I even tried to find a new John like he had told me to do. I would have not been bothered if he had done everything how he had claimed to me, if he had kept his promises to quit and transferred the blog to me who in turn would have handed it over to a new John.

But he did not do any of that, instead he lied and abused me, this is why I made this blog to spread awareness about his abuse. I would be ecstatic if he had just left, but that is the problem, he did not just leave. Instead he chose to ruin me and my reputation on this website, he chose to bully me, abuse me, turn people who I had considered friends against me. He was angry that I did not answer anymore, that he could not control me anymore, that I disobeyed and started to post my side of the story. Typical abuser tantrum, destroying your (online) life because they lost control over you, turning people against you, ruining your reputation with a smear campaign and making you the bad guy even though they are the abuser. I am not hurt because ‘he left’ I am hurt because he abused me and bullied me in the aftermath, destroying my reputation with lies. And months later he still does not stop, still stalking me on several blogs, updating his slandering posts. He did not move on when he is still stalking me on several blogs.

All the blogs that left the RP were modded by consultjohnwatson’s mod (atamh) or by safedistancefrombeingsmart (therealharrywatson, mrs-turners-blog) and I was for sure not hurt by them leaving. I only wanted all of the blogs to stay together for the continuity of the roleplay because I knew what kind of chaos and hurt a split could cause, but the small blogs like Harry or Mrs Turner didn’t matter much and could easily be replaced. So it is not true that I was bothered by ‘John and Co’ leaving. As you might have noticed the majority of the blogs modded by seperate individuals stayed with Sherlock, while the blogs that left were just modded by 2 individuals who had made the whole plan to replace me because safedistancefrombeingsmart indirectly confirmed being the new Sherlock as well. And as said before none of them communicated the separation, all blogs except the ones modded by John or safedistancefrombeingsmart did not know about the split happening either. It’s literally just those 2 people conspiring against everyone else, lying to them and gaslighting them, and then abusing the ones that spoke out against them like the mods of Sherlock, Moriarty and Lestrade.

My posts are not written with ‘unadulterated hatred’, I tried to voice the things that happened as detached as possible, but of course some emotions will come through after being abused and hurt so much for months. But I would say it's more sadness and hurt than hatred that I feel. I don't know why people often take what I write as aggressive when I just try to just report what has happened, it might be because I'm neurodivergent or because I'm not a native speaker. But my posts are not hateful, although I would have much reason to be hateful after everything John’s mod has done to me, after all the abuse and bullying I had to endure at his hands, and at safedistancefrombeingsmart’s hands as well. I don’t know why he wanted to get rid of me, I have tried to figure it out for the last months but I don’t know. Other people have tried to figure it out with me together.

They have come up with some theories, including that my and Sherlock’s asexuality bothered him because he wanted to roleplay sexual stuff, which could be possible given how he immediately changed to sexual roleplay after replacing me and the fact that he had always been bothered with Sherlock’s asexuality. Also probably because I did not always obey him, even though I tried to give him what he wanted like the Johnlock confession at the end. I asked too many questions, especially about the first Sherlock impostor, so he also had to get rid of me, but I still figured it out. Another cause could be my neurodivergence, I struggle to express myself sometimes or what I say gets interpreted as angry or arguing when it wasn't even angry, which turned into misunderstandings and arguments sometimes, in turn might have led him to resent me. But there weren't any other bigger troubles or arguments that could be a potential cause. Or another possibility is narcissistic discard, he was done with me, I did not provide him with any advantages anymore so he just discarded me to get the next person who hasn’t experienced his abuse yet so he can try all the same tricks on them, so the cycle starts anew. 

I will address the situation of the split between consultjohnwatson and consult-sherlockholmes. Aka 'A Scandal in Tumblr'.

You can send me questions, but I will turn off anonymous asks for the time being, because I am still concerned about harassment. But if you want me to answer your ask privately, just mention it in the ask you send and I'll do that.

Long story short: I was not informed about the split before it happened on March 4th. It was not a mutual decision and he lied about it, John's mod had only ever talked about quitting Tumblr, not about replacing me with someone else and continuing on.

Edit: To more accurately describe what consultjohnwatson's mod did in the last months without sugarcoating it: He lied to me and gaslighted me, purposefully misleading me into believing he would quit Tumblr and promised me he would hand over the blog when he quit (clearly indicating that he would stop using the blog and so it would be free to use) while his real plan all along (indicated in messages since September to Jim’s mod and the impostor evidence) to get rid of me, kick me out and replace me with safedistancefrombeingsmart. In the weeks leading up to the split he emotionally abused me and gaslighted me, and in the aftermath publicly abused and bullied me together with safedistancefrombeingsmart, hurting me on purpose with several actions including doxxing private information, and tried to ruin my reputation with more lies and smear campaigns.

So buckle up and grab a beverage of your choice, because this will include some very long posts. Thank you for your patience.

Another interesting aspect is that he didn’t seem to understand why it might be upsetting to be replaced in that way. He said (a while back now) he was sorry that he stayed on tumblr and interacted with new ‘Sherlocks‘ instead of leaving. He never said that he should have communicated better. Although we know the ‘apology’ was never a real apology anyway. Just another lie -since we can be quite sure that this was long planned and he didn’t just interact with others randomly. It’s all right there. John continues lying to make himself look better and save the situation for himself.

With the new information of them making things more sexual, this does all seem to make a bit sense. (In a stupid way.)A lot of people get soo weird when it comes to asexuality- sometimes I think they just don’t get it. How many times in my life have I heard the sentence “You only have to find the right person.” Like hell no, I’m just asexual! And apparently he doesn’t understand it either.

Johns statements don’t make sense in combination anymore. They haven’t for a long time. And many lies have been uncovered.

But this got quite long… anyway, hope everything goes well for you

Thank you very much for your ask. You are making very good points. That reminds me of something someone told me: "Why did he pull this stunt in this fandom of all? It would of course fail in the Sherlock fandom" and I loved that because it's true, the Sherlock fandom is so observant and people saw the holes in his narrative from day one, like @bewitched-bullet who was one of the first to ask questions. So thank you to everyone who asked questions and thought about what happened and tried to find out what the truth is and who supported me in speaking out. All that happened is indeed infuriating and maddening, so I understand your feelings about this, one can only hope for justice to win in the end. The 'guilt' John's mod showed was only apologising for having interacted with that impostor Sherlock 'that he didn't know' according to him, but he didn't apologise for everything else he had done at that point, most importantly kicking me out without speaking to me about it, and then lying about it to the followers. And my guess is he only apologised because the followers started to say that just replacing me as Sherlock before even announcing the change was a rude and bad move to say the least. He didn't apologise for anything else, not the lies, not the bullying, so I doubt that he truly felt any guilt he just did it to look good to the followers. Furthermore because in his apology was another lie, the claim that the impostor Sherlock was just coincidence and not planned, when it had been safedistancefrombeingsmart who is now the new Sherlock and they had planned that together with John's mod. I don't think lying in an apology means that it's honest, rather the opposite. Like you say, he tells lies all the time to make himself look better, he can't even apologise without lying. And all his 'statements' just contained plot holes, lies and contradict each other in an attempt to make himself look better after everything he has done, so his foul play would not be uncovered, just as the smear and intimidation campaign he started against me so I wouldn't speak up.

And as an asexual myself I relate to that, I have heard that sentence more than enough times as well. Maybe he didn't like how Sherlock was asexual, and instead of communicating with me, he did all of that to get what he wanted.

John already started to talk bad about me how I am a bad person that I didn't make a statement with him together before I spoke up the first time, because he saw people started to talk how what he did was bad and started to question his narrative, so he had to put the blame on me to distract from his true actions. But of course after I made my first statement the slandering and smear campaign took on new extremes, starting to claim that I was abusive, emotionally manipulative, and starting to doxx private information. This is called role reversal and a common technique of abusers to blame the victim and further discredit them so the true victim can't expose their abuse, and to intimidate them as well. I will talk about all of this in my final statement in detail, he used many of such methods as if textbook.

He never took any accountability for his actions, just either denying or projecting, or saying what he did (bullying, emotional abuse, doxxing and slandering) wasn't that bad or that I deserved to be bashed by him (literal words by him). Someone mature (even though he's a decade older than me) would take accountability, confess to their deeds and apologise and resent and actually leave Tumblr after doing such horrible things. But of course he doesn't care how he hurt me and other people, he just cares about his own fun with the roleplay. That's what this was all about, get his own selfish fun no matter how it hurts others (and to get attention or he could have just left, tranferred the old blog to someone else and made a new John account from scratch if it had just been about fun and not attention and followers).

Doing all this, hurting so many REAL people, betraying, manipulating, lying, doxxing, bullying and emotional abuse just for a FICTIONAL ROLEPLAY is despicable.

Yours is asexual, right? Do you ever think John just wanted a sexual Sherlock?

Ask received on Sherlock's blog because anonymous was turned on there

I agree with what you are saying, thank you for your asks. I think the purpose of the mod blog and all their posts was not to 'defend' themselves, but to hurt me. There was no need to post personal information or personal attacks and bullying, it was just done because consultjohnwatson's mod knew it would hurt me. They kept claiming that every ask that criticised them was me, which it wasn't, I didn't send those asks, but of course they couldn't process that other people also didn't agree with their actions that there was a bigger group of people who thought their actions were wrong.

And I have a suspicion he also did all that as revenge, because he was angry that I dared to speak up, and angry that I and other's had figured out his schemes and lies about the impostor Sherlock's modded by safedistancefrombeingsmart. I think he really got mad about that, because that's when the slandering got even worse and safedistancefrombeingsmart (Harry's mod) saying something along the lines of 'how I revealed blogs so they can do the same' so it was just petty revenge. They probably thought they were being subtle with their actions and that I and other's wouldn't figure it out with those impostor Sherlock's, but they were sloppy and blatant, leaving evidence everywhere, and that then upset them because they got a reality check about their schemes not being clever. They also tried to involve other people who disliked me who then got involved in their vendetta scheme. An example would be moriarty1234, like you said, who revealed themselves as gregorovitch-adler, because they believe they have some personal problems with me so of course they joined in and created their specific new hate blog to attack and bully us, being very vulgar as you said calling us 'f*cking assh*les' in the tags (they didn't just attack me, but anyone who didn't agree with team John) Another blog that was created most likely by John himself to harass me personal again was itwasaniceday. Their whole mod blog sherlockbbc-rp was not created as a mod blog, but as a blog to attract users with the name and then slander and bully me, a smear campaign blog. It was all just a smear campaign and targeted to hurt and break me. It was just sadistic. For someone who kept saying he doesn't want drama, he did blow up the drama and seemed to enjoy it, getting people involved who didn't have anything to do with the situation. It was a smear campaign designed so people wouldn't believe me when I finally spoke up about his behaviour and his foul actions. And as you said, both major players in this (safedistancefrombeingsmart and consultjohnwatson's mod) are both adults with families, who took their time to bully someone who is one to two decades younger than them.

They had only stopped because anonymous askers kept pointing out that they are still continuing on even though they said they would stop. So thank you to those anonymous askers. They only seem to stop when they get enough backlash by other people that say their behaviour is wrong. And I don't understand either who can still support his roleplay or excuse his actions after witnessing his public abusive behaviour, because usually actors that do such things are held accountable for their abusive actions, which I think the Sherlock Tumblr community should do too and hold bullying like this accountable.

Thank you for your kind words and your support, it means a lot. I don't even know how to describe their behaviour anymore, they always accuse the other side of doing things that they do themselves. It's called narcissistic projection, if you look at a narcissistic smear campaign they have basically done a textbook example. Meanwhile several burner accounts have appeared in support of them like itwasaniceday who reblogged one of my posts yesterday, writes exactly like John, and that reblog was their singular post on their empty blog. So my suspicion is that it was John on a burner account.

I have been silent for 10 days while they continued with their slander, they seemed to have even gotten worse during my absence, now also accusing random blogs, doxxing people, defaming them. What they are doing is literal cyberbullying, I dont understand how anyone can see their behaviour and think 'those are the good guys a side worth supporting' (meaning their mod blog endeavours nothing to do with the roleplay itself) but seems not many people support them anymore either way except suspicious burner looking accounts, safedistancefrombeingsmart (which is like literally their main or with harriets account) and 2 or 3 others who seem to be their avid supporters with whatever they do even when it's literal harassment and bullying. Otherwise the notes on their posts are mostly empty. And instead of maybe noticing that people do not really support their posts and like them, and maybe stop their behaviour to at least save some grace, they got even worse. What they are doing now is not about the split anymore, now they are just malicious and try to hurt everyone who is not on their side, like Jim's mod @jaymesyourplaything, and of course their enemy number 1, me. And of course they do still stalk my accounts, they will most likely read this here even though I blocked them on all their main and alts and asked them to leave me alone. But they are great at respecting other people's boundaries (sarcasm, they are not great at it they walk all over everyone's boundaries). And they are definitely not letting things lie or just answering anonymous asks, they are on the offensive continuously attacking by their own will, without any provocation or justification.