#conflict patterns

Why Some People Recreate Conflict How trauma, emotional conditioning, and nervous system survival patterns can make peace feel unfamiliar. Some people do not destroy peace because they hate it. They destroy it because they never learned how to live inside it. Many people assume conflict comes from immaturity, selfishness, or toxicity alone. While those factors can exist, some people…

As a psychologist supporting couples preparing for marriage, I often explain that young marriages don’t begin blank—they begin anchored in childhood scripts. Each partner brings an internal “working model” of attachment shaped by early caregiver experiences. These styles, secure, anxious, or avoidant, deeply influence how individuals navigate conflict, intimacy, and stress as newlyweds. Be sure…