One thing I learned about setting boundaries with people is not _asking_ them to follow your rules. It's about telling them to. Maybe ordering even, if you're brave enough.
Because asking "Can you please not do that?" subconsicously gives the person options to follow or not to follow your rule, and they might forget about it, or even not notice It's bothering you. And telling "Don't do that when I'm here" with a serious tone creates a rule the person must follow, because you said it with authority and didn't give them options.
Please remember this thing only applies to your personal boundaries and nothing else
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Tips for boosting driving confidence in Autistic people
For some autistic people, myself included, driving anxiety can be really detrimental to your ability to get around and be independent. However, this year (10 years after starting to learn and 9 years after passing my test lol), I have been working hard to improve my confidence and whilst I still have a ways to go, my anxiety isn't nearly as bad as it was and I've driven places I would never have dreamed of this time last year.
The following tips are aimed at autistic people, but I think they'll apply to anyone who considers themselves a nervous driver.
Practice makes perfect! - if something makes you super anxious, the natural thing to do is avoid it if at all humanly possible, right? Well, it might make you feel relief in the moment, but over time this just reinforces your anxious thoughts and can make it harder and harder to break the cycle. As much as it sucks, the key thing is to just. keep. driving. Start with just short journeys on familiar roads and build it up from there. The more situations you encounter the more your skills will improve. For various reasons - including issues with visual processing and sensory overload - it's natural that some autistic people take longer to feel comfortable and confident at doing something, so just keep working at it and you'll slowly but surely notice a difference.
Leave yourself plenty of time - being late is a massive trigger for me, so if I find myself in a situation where I have to drive somewhere in a tight time frame it really freaks me out. Give yourself plenty of time to get where you need to go, so you know you have wriggle room if there's unexpected road closures or if you make a wrong turn. This is especially important if you're going somewhere unfamiliar as you will probably already be anxious about this. Plus, if you arrive early you will have some time to regulate/decompress yourself in preparation for whatever you have planned.
Set out your boundaries - Ok driving alone but having people in car with you sends you into a flat spin? That's fine - say no to passengers for a while and then if you feel ready have a trial run with someone you know will be kind and supportive. Equally, if you find having someone in the car with you is reassuring, that can be a big help - just be sure they understand you are feeling anxious so they don't pressure you to go routes you aren't ready for. Also, some people are overconfident in their driving abilities and may try to get you to do things that are unsafe - don't listen to them! Trust your own judgement.
Set a goal - having something specific to work for can help motivate you and give you a measure of your confidence improving. Maybe you want to drive to an out of town shopping centre, or take a road trip with a friend? Just make sure your goal is realistic and you give yourself a big pat on the back once you achieve it.
Practice self compassion - driving is stressful for some people and that's totally ok. I've accepted that while I can safely get from A to B, I'm probably never someone who is going to want to drive for fun. Remember, you are in charge of your life, no one else. Whilst I'm ok driving short distances, if I have to go to another city I would always opt for public transport if at all available. I know it'll make the whole thing much less stressful for me (and is better for the environment, too). Also, if you've been trying for a while but driving just isn't for you, that's totally ok, too! It sucks that the way our society is built means not having access to your own car is inconvenient at best, but remember we all have different strengths and weaknesses, and deciding not to drive doesn't make you a failure. You can bet the minute I can get hold of a (reliable and affordable) self-driving car, my life will be made so much easier!
And there you have it! I do hope my tips brought you some comfort or reassurance if this is something you've been struggling with. Remember, these tips are what have helped me personally - I am not a driving (lol) or medical professional, and I certainly don't claim to speak for all autistic people.
i got this today on amazon and i’ve read a bunch of reviews and i genuinely think this could solve all of my sensory problems that make brushing my teeth such a nightmare
first off: it’s a gel consistency which is less gritty and does not irritate my teeth
it is also a similar formula as sensodyne or at least does the same stuff since it’s fluoridated, cavity preventing, strengthens enamel and is designed with sensitive teeth in mind but without some of the toxic stuff meaning that if you swallow it it’s not a big deal
the last thing i’ll mention is Flavor and Theme— it’s blue raspberry flavored which is my favorite candy flavor ever, also it’s themed after dragons and has a dissolvable food safe glitter to it! that’s so cool!!
if you’re like me and you have sensory issues that make you not want to brush your teeth, i highly recommend getting a flavored toothpaste and don’t worry if it’s labeled as “for kids” like this one is, because if you look at the ingredients and stuff that it’s designed for you’ll notice that adults need all of that too so it’s actually fine
there is a brand who makes flavored toothpastes aimed at adults called Hismile, which i will also recommend because:
- gel consistency
- pump packaging that’s slim and easy for travel
- same quality; fluoridated, meant for sensitive teeth, cavity prevention, enamel strengthening and non-toxic
anyways i hope this helps anyone else with sensory problems!!
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ekk i'm hyperfixating (on hxh) and having trouble sleeping. like brain, why??? i need to be able to function in everyday life. we need to sleep. we need to eat. we can't just spend all day searching for every analysis on this anime!!
(also like any advice for how to deal with this would be appreciated tbh)
When people ask you about your well being during conversation you're supposed to ask about them in return
I'd someone compliments you you it is common to compliment them in return or bring up something you like about them
It is considered rude to point out others eating habits (chewing, diet, choice of food)
Correcting someones grammar/pronunciation is considered rude
Unwarranted Comments on others appearance such as weight, facial/body hair is considered rude (a good rule is if they can not fix it in five minutes do not comment on it)
If in a safe environment there is no need to feel ashamed of ticks or stimming it can be more overwhelming to hide them.
Take masking* (this is the act of concealing atypical traits and behaviors*) breaks a quick trip to the bathroom, your room, or a walk
I've been meaning to post about this. If you struggle to wash dishes because of the sensory input or because your bare hands have to touch gross stuff,, try gloves! And get ones that go further up the arm so you're not getting water in them. Mine are insulated which is nice but ngl idk what it does lol. But I do like that mine are thicker so I don't get as much anxiety about cutting them or myself and I don't have to worry about them ripping like you would with disposable/thinner ones.
Most of the time I just avoided doing dishes but now I don't have to which is cool. Means I can cook and bake more without worrying about how many dishes I'm making! It actually makes me so happy!! This is so helpful for my sensory processing disorder and my (relatively minor) contamination anxiety. I'm literally so happy I decided this was a good idea and didn't force myself to just "not make a big deal out of it" 🥲
Reminder that your needs are important and it's okay if they look different!! Do what's going to make it easiest for you! Just because you *can* do it the harder way doesn't mean you have to or should. You deserve to be able to use methods that work for you :)
