so i want to talk about something

i know we have favourite person for bpd and chosen person for npd, the person or people who are the object of our obsession and we view as equal to ourselves respectively (not the *best* description but the basic idea in a short go)

i dont know if theres already terms like that for aspd but id like to give it a go because its heavily impacting my relationships with this "social circle" i have.

i think as a person with antisocial personality disorder, i find it hard and even scary to talk to anyone outside this sphere i have, ranging from having extremely low to no empathy towards people outside the sphere and feeling almost hyperempathy to people further into the sphere. theres certain people i keep in it, people who are both my fp's and cp's, and anyone else i struggle to talk to or otherwise avoid mainly out of discomfort.

i propose we have a term for people we prefer to talk to, a term better than just "social circle". like contact person or interactive person,

a person or people you feel most comfortable conversing with, most of your interactions with people happen with them if any and anyone outside them seems discomforting, bland, dull and/or possibly even scary.

talking to people outside my interactive person/people can cause me terrible anxiety and when something feels off about my conversations with my ip i tend to isolate myself because my brain thinks thats how things will fix.

this is of course heavily co-morbid with my bpd and npd but i feel aspd should have a term as well, because this part i experience very frequently with such a shifting social circle.

this post is less to coin the term(s) more so to open the discussion on the topic so please feel free to add on if you have aspd

but do not derail the post from the topic of aspd and terms we can use for our experience!

is it kind of like a favourite person (with bpd) or equal (with npd)? (i have what i call “favourite equal persons” because not all my equals are favourite persons)

or is it something entirely different?  i’ve honestly never heard the term before but it sounds degrading/demeaning as heck.  one of my favourite equal persons is hyperempathetic and the idea of calling them an “empet” just sounds degrading.

(i wasn’t around the aspd community much for many years, i was in a little bit of denial about my diagnosis, and the Edgy™ aspd community did not help.)