#asenual

[PT: Comegoattractional. End PT.]

Comegoattractional: Basically the opposite of aegoattractional. Someone who only enjoys attraction in general when they themself are involved. They may enjoy attraction in practice/in real life but not enjoy it (or actively dislike it) in uninvolved film/fiction/fantasy. They also may struggle with or dislike having fantasies unless they involve themself.

Not to be confused with egoattractional (attraction to those similar to self) or autoattractional (attraction to self).

Word from Portuguese "com" (with), "ego" (self), and "attraction" (or other applicable suffixes).

First flag based on this set (link) by @jamiieeez. Second based on this aegoattractional flag (link).

Variations below:

Comegoattractional 2 — Comegolove

Comegoromantic — Comegosexual — Comegorose

Comegoaroace 1 — Comegoaroace 2 — Comegoqueerplatonic

Comegoplatonic 1 — Comegoplatonic 2 — Comegofamilial

Comegosensual — Comegoaesthetic — Comegoalterous

Ok, so I’m going to make a post about my abrospec questing because I’m trying to explore it but am having trouble figuring out what label fits me best. And, yes, I understand that I don’t have to use any specific label, I just want to look at what’s out there.

So, usually I feel like I’m on the multispectrum, and my romantic attraction is almost always mspec in some way, like bi, pan, poly or omni, or even just multiromantic, while my sexual attraction can fluctuate into the monospec spectrum as well, and sometimes I’m mostly sapphic or mostly achillean and have a connection to the terms lesbian and veldian. Usually I feel somewhere on the aroace spectrum and never feel fully alloromantic or allosexual. I also am fluid between aspec orientations, like demiaroace, repciroace, greyroace, cupiorose, and orchidrose.

My tertiary attractions are also usually aspec, except for my aesthetic attraction. I am very much alloaesthetic. My aesthetic attraction is actually stronger than most alloaesthetics tbh. Is there a label for really strong, queer aesthetic attraction, now that I’m mentioning it? My aesthetic attraction tends to fluctuate along with my sexual attraction but feels for on the pan-bi-omni spectrum. My other attractions tend to fluctuate between different aspec orientations, between pan and omni, and between sapphic and achillean.