#antibinary

[ PT: anti-binary /End PT. ]

alternate anti-binary flag i made for myself a while back because the stripe order in the original flag bothered me. it's unchanged aside from the stripe order and a couple hues and values.

[ PT: alternate anti-binary flag i made for myself a while back because the stripe order in the original flag bothered me. it's unchanged aside from the stripe order and a couple hues and values. /End PT. ]

you have to do this because it's what girls do. you have to do this because it's what boys do. you're not doing it good enough. you're doing it too much. you're not doing it the right way. i'm going to see you as subhuman because you're a girl. i'm going to tell you to be cruel because you are a boy. why are you submitting? be a strong woman! why are you being cruel? be a good man.

what if we all said fuck it and stopped being men and women at all? what if our only goal was to be good people? what if we pursued love for the sake of love and not for marriage or checking boxes that we're told to check? what if being male or female was nothing more than a set of physical characteristics and anything else about you is dependent on you as a creature of earth?

Alright, I'm gonna give you some information about the genderterm "contrabinary", because there's not much info to find about it online.

Contrabinary is a term for those who feel their gender identity is a political rejection of the gender binary.

The meaning of the flag colours is:

•Yellow: being outside the gender binary

•Green: love for marginalized people

•Red: loudness, anger, and rejection

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"Contrabinary means my gender is in direct opposition to the gender binary system – it’s not just that it doesn’t fit comfortably within that system, it’s that it actively defies it."

-Quote from author Endever*

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You can compare it to the behaviour of a toddler or teenager who reject an assignment from their parents by performing the exact opposite act of what they're being told. They don't perform this act because they really want to, but because they're protesting against the authority of their parents.

"I feel disgust towards the gender binary in a way that leads me to protest against this entire system. This protest feels like the definition of my gender. It's a way of standing up to authority about defined gender roles and stereotypes. "

-Quote by OP

Contrabinary is a specific gender, and falls under the umbrellaterms:

•Nonbinary

•Genderqueer

•Aporagender

Contrabinary people can be gender nonconforming.

It's quite like the term unbinary, which means the following: Unbinary is a polyantigender identity in which one's gender is the opposite of the gender binary. It may be seen as a polyantigender of male & female.

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Contrabinary is also the opposite of the gender binary, but not in a poly(anti)gender way. The term contrabinary can be used as a single gender, that protests against and defies the gender binary by trying to be the exact opposite of it.

It is however not to be confused with 'antibinary', which is a term exclusive for BIPOC or individuals who are/have been oppressed by white individuals.

These people defy the Western ideology of the gender binary, because they can't identify with it or have been oppressed by authorities regarding to their gender.

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The term contrabinary can be used by anyone who feels like this is the right definition for their gender. It is however to be used seriously, not as a joke and definitely not in a transphobic way.

Relatable is the term 'contragender', which means the following: Contragender is a term for someone who deeply defies and identifies opposite or against everything or most things that they associate with their assigned gender.

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https://mogai.miraheze.org/wiki/Contragender

The difference between contragender and contrabinary, is that contragender is the opposite of their own assigned sex at birth, while contrabinary is the opposite of the gender binary in general.

Other terms that share a similar meaning are 'rebelgender', 'anarchogender' and 'genderpunk'.

Rebelgender is a gender identity in which one's gender is strongly rooted to the fact that they do not fit inside the gender binary that many cisgender people prefer. Rebelgenders will often feel more deeply connected to their gender when they are aware that it is causing people discomfort. For example, someone who is rebelgender may feel more comfortable in their gender when it confuses others, because it makes them feel like they are experiencing something unique, and they find it funny when people ask 'what is that?' about their gender.

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Now, the difference between rebelgender and contrabinary, is that contrabinary people don't necessarily feel euphoria from when their gender is causing discomfort by other people.

This may be the case, but it doesn't have to be.

Lastly, the first definition of 'anarchogender' shares similarities with the contrabinary gender.

Anarchogender is a gender with two definitions. The first definition is a non-binary gender characterized by a rejection of the gender binary and its social hierarchy.

Anarchogender is an unaligned gender that cannot be defined by the binary and will not conform to it. Can be considered a form of genderf*ck or genderpunk.

Genderf*ck, also known as genderpunk, is a term for a gender as well as a declared opposition to gendernormativity. It is an identity that based on a resistance against gender norms, homophobia and transphobia, and oppression and societal status.

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The term 'genderf*ck/genderpunk' is a declared opposition against oppression in different forms, whereas 'contrabinary' is a contrast of the gender binary and doesn't have to be declared. This means that genderpunk people often challenge the expectations of society. Contrabinary people can do that too, but they don't have to in order to be contrabinary.

In my opinion, the term 'Anarchogender' comes closest to the definition of 'contrabinary', because it also rejects the gender binary as a system and will not conform to it.

The only difference I can find between both terms, is that the rejection of the binary is in the name of 'contrabinary', which literally means 'the opposite of the gender binary'.

Whereas anarchogender stems from queer anarchism, and has other definitions, such as:

"Being an anarchist affects your perception of gender, or "one's gender is just anarchy, and is intended to be up to the interpretation of whoever uses the label. This could also be considered a xenogender*."

While anarchogender is in this way linked to anarchism, contrabinary can be, but doesn't have to be.

Contrabinary is also not considered a xenogender, because it is not related to materials, animals, plants, or other things/creatures. 

The contrabinary gender doesn't state where it's linked towards, and only describes where it's the opposite of, what it's not.

This could also be considered a nongender (a gender identity in which one's gender is most accurately described by what it isn’t, not by what it is).

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*(For reference: xenogender is a gender that cannot be contained by human understandings of gender; more concerned with crafting other methods of gender categorization and hierarchy such as those relating to animals, plants, or other creatures/things)

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