#third gender

Im gonna stop 🛑 yall right there

I’m bi pan omni depending on context and definition I’m also disabled bipoc and qtipoc though So would date only another person or people (As someone queer trans native third gender and polyam) Only if they were also bipoc and qtipoc I’m not here for cishets and or yt non natives

Let’s get this out of the way. If you’re planning to use this as a dating app. Or know me from one. Remember that I’m 30+ I’m only interested in dating people 22+. By that same token Im only interested in people younger than 40. Im not into problematic age gap relationships irl cuz of power imbalances. 🔞

Remember I’m also a disabled native of color. Remember that I’m a queer, trans, and polyam native of color. Remember that I’m a visibly brown ass native of color. Those things are important to my lived experience.

If you are white cishet and or non native. I’m only interested in being friends or acquaintances. Full stop. This is fucking self explanatory. I’m only interested in dating, marrying, and or having kids with bipoc and or qtipoc partners. I’m not interested in being fetishized, objectified, dehumanized, & or sexualized etc again by white non natives as an Asian native of color. I’m not exotic I’m exhausted. I’m not a race play fantasy for settler colonizers.

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Info About Preferred Names and Pronouns:

Dont misgender me

Dont dead name me

Preferred Names:

Hello.

My Indigenous Pasifika name is No'eau Aitonui Hoata/Heiani Mareva Hoata. If you are Indigenous or Indigenous Pasifika. Please refer to me by that name.

My Vietnamese Kinh name is Ngoc Hein/Xuan Dinh Nguyen. If you are a non native person of color. Please refer to me by that name.

Names on the left is when I am kane/tane/masc. Names on the right is when I am vahine/wahine/ femme.

I do have unisex names for when I am Maohi raerae. Think two spirit, mahu, or fakaleiti native third gender.

But I am not comfortable sharing it on social media. Only use these names if you are a fellow Native or Native Pasifika. Or if you are a non native person of color. Not if you are a non native yt settler.

Names have power. I don't want certain people to refer to me by certain names for obvious reasons.

My English/French name is Christian Henry Nguyen/Charlotte Jeanne Nguyen. If you are a non native white person. You can only refer to me by this name.

Its a lot more nuanced than this. But this is based on our racial, cultural, & gender identities. And their relationship to each other.

Refer to me by full name if its a formal conversation. Refer to me by first name only if its an informal conversation.

Preferred Pronouns:

Any and all pronouns. Including neopronouns and Indigenous third gender pronouns. He him/ She her. They them. Xer xers. Zer zehir. Native third gender neutral ona.

For unisex or gender nuetral names when I am they them, xer xers, or zer zehir. Ask privately for the names.

I will also accept native masc, femme, & native third gender terms. As well as masc, femme, & nonbinary terms from other cultures of color. Be sure to clarify which is first for me.

Dont assume masc. That queer trans and polyam symbol is in my bio and pinned post for a reason. Esp as a third gender native of color. I really don't want to be misgendered or dead named here like on Twitter again. The only time you can refer to me by masc terms without asking me first is when we are irl for safety reasons.

General rule is. Ask for pronouns first. If I say he him. Refer to me by my names on the left. If I say she her. Refer to me by the names on the right. If I say they them, xer xers, zer zehir. Ask privately for unisex, nonbinary, or third gender names.

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