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Hi,

Don’t stress about it! It’s totally normal to question these things it’s all part of self discovery and it doesn’t mean you’re faking at all.

If non binary feels comfortable for you then thats what you are. The gender binary is a spectrum, so to be non binary you don’t have to feel part male and part female you can feel anywhere in between.

If you mostly feel like your agab which is female you could be demigirl or just simply non binary or genderqueer. If you don’t fully identify as the gender you were born as that’s enough to identify as non binary.

Remember that labels are for you and not for other people.

- Lola

A link with some gender definitions: https://lgbtsupport.tumblr.com/post/615938226277040128/hi-so-i-was-wondering-if-you-could-help-with-some

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Hi,

I don’t know if you’re ready yet or it’s even something you want to do, but maybe she’s understanding enough that you could explain to her how you’re really feeling without mentioning the questioning your gender part.

I’m not exactly sure of a way that could put her off that wouldn’t make her less concerned, because no caring parent wants to ignore their child’s struggles like that.

Is it possible that you can see a therapist to help with your struggles? But maybe tell your mom it’s for body dysmorphia rather than dysphoria.

I can offer some advice on how to deal with the dysphasia itself, but how to get your mom to lay off without causing her growing concern would be kind of difficult.

I’m really sorry that I can’t offer you anything more than that unfortunately, but please message us or ask again if you need!

Hi,

Of course it’s normal, it’s a name you’ve gone by your whole life so it’s only expected to be attached to it.

Remember that names don’t really have a gender and that it’s more of a societal thing, so don’t feel like you have to go by your middle name just because you feel like it’s more neutral.

There are guys called Ashley and August which we would typically associate as more feminine, and girls called James and Ryan which are typically more masculine. You don’t have to change yours just because it may not be neutral.

So if you really are attached to your first name then maybe you should keep it! But if not, don’t sweat it. Your first name can always be part of you if you want it to be. Maybe you could get a pendant with your first name on it or a tattoo or any other accessory as a reminder that it’s always part of you, and still go by your chosen name.

Hope this helped!

This is a tough one. Liking the opposite sex when being bi or pan doesn’t make you any less bi or pan. Bisexual or pansexual people in “hetero” relationships are still very much bisexual or pansexual.

If it’s because of what other people may think that you’re “faking it” or something on those lines I would ignore them. I think the best way to accept it is try not to stress yourself. You’re not any less of a label just because of what others may think or perceive of you.

As for the shame part. There’s nothing to be ashamed about liking the opposite sex, bi/pansexuality is your identity, and liking the opposite sex is part of bi/pansexuality- no matter how frequent or infrequent.