#alter: default

i think that it's largely not my business.

let me elaborate though. it's my business when people try to force their way into traumagenic system spaces. it's very my business when someone attacks someone who underwent severe childhood trauma for "inclusion" reasons.

i understand that i might never understand endos. everything about them is so different from our experience as a system. and thats okay! ill keep trying to understand until the day i die. but heres the thing: we are not the same. i will never be able to really have anything in common with an endo, tulpas, etc. traumagenic spaces dont need to accommodate these, because inherently they are so drastically different. i dont think endos are bad people. i might think theyre confused, i most likely think theyre actually traumagenic systems who really cant remember the trauma that caused their system or who have medical trauma relating to their system. but peoples personal/spiritual beliefs arent for me to judge, only their actions are. so endos are fine if they stick to their spaces, but this blog is not for them. traumagenic system communities are not for them. if someday they come to find that they really are traumagenic, thats okay! it just took them some time to get there, but they are provably and medically valid. i respect endos, but we are not the same. i had to be like this because a child needed it to survive. they cannot relate to us and other traumagenic systems.

after having done some research, im deciding to retract our previous syscourse statements. im leaving the post(s) up, both because some of it is still largely true to our opinions and because deleting it feels like trying to erase that our opinion changed. opinions change. opinions should change, especially when presented with new information.

i no longer have any stance at all on the validity of non-traumagenic systems. i think that its far too early to try to claim anything concrete about the way dissociation, dissociative disorders, and multiplicity in general work. i have no opinion because i cant find an adequately compelling basis to have one, and because the multiplicity i know about is traumagenic; we have a dissociative disorder, and so other plurality is beyond my experience.

i still support there being mostly separated spaces for these two kinds of plurals. there is far more to being a traumagenic system than just the alters that non-traumagenic plurals simply cannot fully understand or relate to. i similarly think that most of the language for describing each should be kept separate (obviously excluding terms that were intended to be inclusive "plural", "multiple", etc), because system terminology is medical terminal and other plurality is not medical. there should not be any kind of a push to demedicalize systems because it is vital that traumagenic systems continue to receive access to medical care regarding their disorders. period. i am not willing to argue even slightly on the last point. if you call people "traumascum" or have anything toxic like that to say about people with trauma, you are NOT welcome near this blog.

i do think that there should be some shared spaces for plurals of any kind, but these should not by default be the only spaces people with dissociative disorders can occupy.