#"wok

Step 1: Beat him senseless. Proving that you could kill him at any time, and hence you are not interested in killing him, because you love him, like a son.

Step 2: Order him, the King, to give you the most powerful position in the kingdom, so you can enforce the "ways" that you yourself came across through delusions and some very suspicious book.

Let me explain. For the longest time, I never understood why Sadeas reacted so strongly to Wit joking about him sleeping around. He's clearly very securely monogamous. His wife is an excellent court politician with the most extensive spy network and a deft manipulator. They're both geniuses united in ruthless ambition. The only person one trusts completely is the other.

But that's the thing. All the things that make Ialai so beautiful to him aren't readily apparent to the public. He himself admits she's not conventionally attractive. She's not very highly placed and comes from a family that's tacky enough to give her a perfectly symmetrical name. A lot of people probably think he had to marry low because he was considered a backwater warlord when they got together. He's probably heard a million jokes about it.