i will always find you

Requesting a Bear Hug~

The documentary includes a brief clip of a 1954 televised newscast about the rise of homosexuality. The host of the program interviewed psychologists, a police officer, and one “known homosexual”. The “known homosexual” is 22 years old. He identifies himself as Curtis White, which is a pseudonym; his name is actually Dale Olson.

So I tracked down the newscast. According to what I can find, Dale Olson may have been the first gay man to appear openly on television and defend his sexual orientation. He explains that there’s nothing wrong with him mentally and he’s never been arrested. When asked whether he’d take a cure if it existed, he says no. When asked whether his family knows he’s gay, he says that they didn’t up until tonight, but he guesses they’re going to find out, and he’ll probably be fired from his job as well. So of course the host is like …why are you doing this interview then? and Dale Olson, cool as cucumber pie, says “I think that this way I can be a little useful to someone besides myself.”

1954. 22 years old. Balls of pure titanium.

Despite the pseudonym, Dale’s boss did indeed recognize him from the TV program, and he was promptly fired the next day. He wrote into ONE magazine six months later to reassure readers that he had gotten a new job at a higher salary.

Curious about what became of him, I looked into his life a little further. It turns out that he ultimately became a very successful publicity agent. He promoted the Rocky movies and Superman. Not only that, but get this: Dale represented Rock Hudson, and he was the person who convinced him to disclose that he had AIDS! He wrote the statement Rock read. And as we know, Rock Hudson’s disclosure had a very significant effect on the national conversation about AIDS in the U.S.

As most of you will probably know already, Tumblr’s been messing around with algorithms for a while, and seemingly accounts are getting suspended all over the place for having links in their posts (?!)

I’ve been thinking about closing my account for a while anyway, and I’m not interested in trying to keep ahead of Tumblr changes if I’m not using the account much, so I’m gonna be deactivating the Tusks tumblr in a day or two.

Die Eule habe hat Hunger

there’s no way to have a healthy romantic relationship when one person isn’t romantically attracted to the other. and i shouldn’t even have to start on what’s wrong with having sex with someone who says they feel no sexual attraction. like i said, it’s really nowhere as deep as people make it out to be.

that “action does not equal attraction” thing that keeps going around makes NO sense. if i say i’m gay and i know i’m gay but then i ask a girl on a date (without being pressured or forced into it), then i could say that same thing to justify the fact that my actions go directly against what i claim my orientation is.

this isn’t a straw man. i’ve seen these things everywhere and it’s there is no possible way to have a healthy relationship if one or all people involved identifies themselves as ace/aro and they’re in a relationship that falls under the field that they describe to have no attraction in.

You have every right to keep your stuff private, it is natural to not want people, no matter how close they are, going through your phone/papers/conversations/pictures.