i grant you a place to belong

favorite animes: ノラガミ 「noragami」

“to put things simply, if your past makes your present… then your present can and will make your future. When you think about it that way… you absolutely have the potential to be anything you want to be.”

I got two anon asks from you, but Ill answer rhem both here to condense it a bit 😊

I respect that you feel uncomfortable, I will never tell you not to feel uncomfortable because those are your feelings 💕 It is fair to say there are flaws in every piece of media, but perhaps its my bias toward Noragami as it is my favorite manga. I am one of those "unseen" because of the physical abuse I suffered by my own father. Not a lot of manga touch on this.

I do want to say, a lot of girls in anime are usually young because I believe it helps Japanese girls (or any girl, but Japanese girls mostly because this is targeted toward a Japanese audience, not westerners) that watch/read this easier to relate to, like Hiyori. Im not even a teenager anymore and I relate to her (at the same time its hard to relate to a character like Hiyori on a surface level because shes wealthy and has parents who love each other, not everyone has experienced this). Shes relatable because of how determined she is to save those that she cares about, and she really puts her foot down when it comes to her friends. We can all see a little "Hiyori" in all of us💖

With that last bit said, on some level I can understand what you're saying. If a high school girl and an older guy were trying to get together would make me highly uncomfortable AND concerned (and vice versa). At the same time, fictionally, do we know how old Yato is supposed to "be" or "look"? To me he looked 17-19, be his actual age is like 1000 or so. Its trying to rationalize an immortal person.

So, in the best way I can, I want to stress this is fiction. And if anyone takes fiction and uses it as an excuse to make it reality, theres something wrong with them and its a crime.

**This is where I want to stress to anyone reading this, if anyone knows of someone who is young and being pursued by an older man (vice versa) REPORT IT! Fiction is never been an excuse to do something in reality**

For example, there’s such a contrast between her and Masaomi, who is in his early twenties I believe, and has a lot more freedom and agency regarding his own path and decisions; so he’s already more firmly connected to his life in the Near Shore, figuring himself out actively. I think we’re supposed to see Hiyori going through the process of becoming an adult and struggling to WANT to grow up (instead of eternally being with Yato), hence her age at the start.  Actually, I still have my hopes up for a graduation scene or even an epilogue with her older. That would be so dope.

Noragami is a coming of age for those who are becoming adults and a tribute to those who weren’t able to.

[And, of course: a person shipping or hating Yatori is not, or shouldn’t need to be, a statement about what they think about real life adults who prey on real life teenagers. That’s sort of unsustainable when it comes to fiction.

OR

I know scarf’s story went through the alphabet: https://archiveofourown.org/works/5875168

My father and I are in a very precarious and complicated situation.

Let me begin by saying we live in Portugal so none of the information gets confusing.

My father is disabled. He's deaf and currently recovering from a full knee replacement surgery (after 6 other failed surgeries).

I myself am chronically ill as well but I'm the only caretaker he has and also his secretary and translator for anything official due to his deafness.

My father has been on medical leave for over 3 years due to delays in his surgeries, as soon as the three years ended in July, we stopped getting his disability pension (local law, disability can't go over 3 years or they cut the pension) and his request for temporary aid from social security until he can work again might take months to be approved and during those months we have absolutely no income.

Meanwhile I'm also waiting for several doctor assessments and reports to get disability aid as well but thanks to new pandemic rules everything in that area has been delayed for months.

Add to that that the magazine I worked for closed down months ago and that I'm finding it impossible to get work where I can still care for my dad in the middle of the pandemic, and the result is that my bank account is literally in the negative numbers and we're very much broke.

We still have a hefty house debt to pay that piled on interest from last year, not to mention health expenses, food, gas, water and electric bills, and we have to pay for a ton of paperwork and red tape to get my dad (and myself) aid again.

This situation is very complicated and social security, the general health department, and the IRS, are making us jump through all sorts of complicated hoops and the meanwhile until we can solve all this we have absolutely no income for the next few months.

The local social charity center is helping by buying our medication, attempting to help with electric bills and occasionally providing canned goods but we are absolutely desperate and have nobody to turn to.

Of the only two relatives that could help us, one hates my father for exposing corrupt business practices and dangerous worker conditions in his factory so he refuses to acknowledge us; the other relative wishes he could help but his wife's Alzheimer's got worse and now they have to juggle two maids and a nurse to ensure her well being so they can't really help right now either.

I'm still taking commissions for my fandom rings and willing to write oneshots or draw sketches for any donators who want them but there's been no interest lately.

I tried to summarize the situation as simple as possible but if you want further details, you can ask me on DM.

I hate having to ask for help and I know I've done it before years ago, but the situation was never this dire.

Please, if you can help in anyway, any little bit is appreciated.

TL;DR - government is making my disabled dad and I jump through crazy slow hoops in order to get aid and survive and while we wait for that to happen we have zero income and need all the help we can get to survive.

YOU CAN DONATE TO:

paypal.me/rachcoelho

OR

ko-fi.com/valkerymillenia

-My dad got denied temporary disability pension while he recovers.

The only option they are giving him is retirement by disability but he doesn't want that because he should be well enough to work in a few months and because his retirement pension will be fucking tiny due to half of his work years talking place in a foreign country. Plus, the expected time it would take to process that request (and be accessed by a government doctor for it) is several months, at which point he might already be close to well enough to work but won't be able to if they decide to consider him an invalid. Either the problem is the period between now and then, we have ZERO INCOME.

I'm trying my best, doing incredibly degrading odd jobs that trigger me like hell but it's all I can do to keep us alive. My own medical assessments to get disability aid are still months away too because the pandemic slowed everything down and I'm not considered a priority in the healthcare system.

insert caption about EBOY FATHER here

(Part 1 - here) (Part 2)

Me for like a year now, halfway joking: father reminds of an onryo haha Adachitoka, crashing through the ceiling: guess what MOTHERFUCKER

As always, Father backstory is living in my mind rent free so in this post, I’ll be talking about goryou(jin), onryo, asserting some facts, asking some questions, talking a lot, but most importantly, I’ll be begging Adachitoka to get the foreplay over with already and give. us. a. FLASHBACK. (please)

Dated: 08/07/2020 Word count: 4426

Ramblings under the cut!