I'll be here when it all gets weird

Reblog if you think the person you reblogged this from deserves to be happy.

for everyone’s reference: a brazilian real is about twenty cents in american dollars. keep that in mind if you are buying a coffee via kofi. it will automatically set at R$5, so if you want to give $5 USD you will want to give R$25.

I have a migraine tonight and I’m about to lie down and use the coldcap y’all got me off my medical wishlist a few months back and it helps me so so much and i’m suddenly a little emotional about how much y’all have helped me this last year with my medical needs and all else idk. i’m never sure how to post “thank you” on a blog and sound sincere so maybe I don’t say it often enough because I’m not sure it will. but every time my day is saved or improved and things are a little or a lot easier for me bc of the things y’all gave me I think about how lucky I am. so thank you : )

love when i get harsh pushback from a tme bc i was talking about transmisogyny bc it means i get to be extremely scared and anxious all day

i genuinely don't think tme allies understand how extremely stressful these discussions are for us to have, especially in public

idk if you wanna be a good ally to trans women you should probably consider not picking fights with us where you insist we don't understand misogyny

Luigi probably fucks though.

Ok but why is Luigi different

displays internality by being capable of fear. to fear is to have something to lose. and what does he stand to lose? fucking.

I’m certainly not the first transfem to bring this up but there really is something to be said about how tmes arguing with trans women will suddenly and irrelevantly bring up their own personal trauma as a way to shut down any disagreement. I.e. once the trauma has been laid out any further disagreement with their initial argument can be framed as diminishing or even celebrating their trauma. I’ve seen this happen too many times not to notice a pattern

i appreciate the amount of people reblogging this despite me not really tagging this at all. im glad many of people feel the same anger i do.

sorry for sexualizing icky gross things as if it’s my fault they’re all literally hot

a funny thing about having conversations with people within institutions (academic in this case but also others) about gatekeeping, is that you end up having a conversation over and over in which you're like, "hey this alligator spike pit moat you have erected around your institution is keeping a lot of people out," and they're like, "well *I* navigated the alligator spike pit moat just fine," and you're like, "right. by dint of us having this conversation, you within the institution and me without, it is understood that you navigated the alligator spike pit moat. due to that being an inherent requirement of entering the institution," and they're like, "I don't think you understand the prestigious history of our alligator spike pit moat," and you're like, "is there a reason why there needs to be an alligator spike pit moat encircling the concept of higher education?" and they're like, "look, the alligator spike pit moat isn't for everyone. some people just aren't cut out for the alligator spike pit moat :)" and you're like, "right, yeah, like disabled people and people coming from poverty or unstable home environments or underserved communities or people dealing with difficult to navigate life events like pregnancy or abuse or prison or addiction or the death of a loved one, for example" and they're like, "how dare you imply that we are keeping those people out on purpose. it's their own problem if they can't wrestle the alligators and avoid the spikes while also disabled and/or poor and/or pregnant etc" and you're like, "well that seems evil," and they're like, "it sounds like maybe you're just bitter about the alligator spike pit moat because of your totally random individual experience with ONE bad alligator spike pit moat. have you considered therapy?" and you're like, "did you know that there's some patterns here in terms of how y'all are handling this stuff?" and they're like, "actually yes. we even have a department of alligator spike pit studies :)" and you're like, "that's great, how do I get access to and participate in those conversations?" and they're like, "well firstly you must cross the alligator spike pit moat"

if you can document that you have a medical condition that might make it challenging for you to navigate the alligator spike pit moat, they'll give you an extra 20 minutes to complete your navigation of the alligator spike pit moat