Hello, new friends! I assume you are here due to JJ-loving-ism, so allow me to present my we-should-all-love-JJ manifesto in fic form:
and you're miles and miles from your nice warm bed -- When J.J. goes to comfort Shane after the almost-plane-crash, Shane tells him the truth. This fixes some things.
Snippet:
"Well, this is embarrassing," J.J. said. "For me, I mean. Also for you, because your taste in men is horrible, but mostly for me. I knew you had a crush on him, but—"
"You what?" Shane was glad he hadn't had any of the coffee. His heart was going to explode even without caffeine. "Oh, god. Does everyone—?"
"Hey, no." J.J. bumped him, shoulder to shoulder. "I don't think anybody else noticed. Seriously, I was so proud of myself for like, figuring it out. What a fucking dumbass, huh? Boyfriends, really? Fuck, man, I was all heartbroken for you and everything."
Shane surprised himself laughing. "Heartbroken, really?"
"I thought you had a crush on a straight man! Why do you think I kept trying to set you up?" J.J. laughed too, and then abruptly stopped. "Shit. Is Rozanov going to murder me?"
Now with sequel! we stick together we can see it through (now complete!!)
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"Hey." J.J. held out his hand for a handshake, as if he were meeting Ilya for the first time, and Shane supposed that in a way he was. "Zane says you don't suck."
Shane had not made Ilya promise to be on his best behavior, and he regretted that immediately as he watched Ilya shake J.J.'s hand with an expression of exaggerated confusion.
"Bood is slandering me? Why would he do this?" Ilya turned to Shane. "And you! You are letting your friends believe I don't give excellent—"
Shane put his hand over Ilya's mouth. "You know that's not what he meant."
Ilya nodded, and when Shane removed his hand, he blinked innocently. "English is so hard," he said. "Like you when I—"
"NOPE!"
The front door opened and Hayden poked his head out. "Are you guys gonna come in any time today, or what? Not that I mind if Rozanov stays outside. That is one hundred percent fine with me."
"Ilya was just getting everything inappropriate out of his system before we spend time with the kids," Shane said.
"Oh, is that what we're doing?" J.J. asked, sounding way too amused. "In that case I wanted to know if you guys are aware Rozanov has performance-enhancing jizz?"
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Almost. Years ago my computer suddenly stopped working and lost everything on it. Fortunately a relatively recent backup still existed bc of my family, a recent parts switch, and dumb luck. But last year a friend of mine got hacked and lost close to everything he had done creatively in the last 17-ish years. Art. Novels in progress. Entire conlangs. DnD character Sheets. Music he had made. All gone. He never backed any of it up. Few months later I started this habit (or ritual, almost) of drawing a reminder beast any time I would make a full complete backup. In hopes that seeing these things might remind others and myself. (Another factor here is that I am an animator and some of the stuff on my computer took literal years to make. And the film university I go to urges us to take this stuff seriously, too.)
TOS K/S headcanon for the characterizations of the show (not films), ft. an established relationship formed shortly after the five-year mission:
Spock's second pon farr makes it pretty much impossible to conceal the nature of his relationship with Kirk from Vulcan. I subscribe to "his menarche first pon farr was unusually late, enough that he'd started to hope his human blood had prevented it from ever happening, and his later pon farr schedule might be irregular in other ways," so this could occur right after they get together after the mission, several years afterwards, etc; it doesn't terribly matter for the headcanon's purposes.
Anyway, no matter when it happens, my headcanon is that the revelation that Spock spontaneously formed a deep psychic bond with his human best friend, and the re-contextualization of evidence that already existed (T'Pau remembering Spock only introducing Kirk to her, and not his other friend until prompted, and implying he's considering suicide after the kal-i-fee: ...ah), isn't that surprising to the Vulcans. It's like, oh, the half-human among us who has chosen to align himself with human groups at every opportunity where a choice could be made—even within Starfleet—formed an irregular bond without a ceremony, to a human? Once again, we have discovered a fork in the kitchen.
Admittedly, nobody was expecting he'd go so far as bonding with a human male, but that's why the proper bonding process at an early age to an appropriate partner is important. But [grimly] what is done, is done, and there is no logic in attempting to alter what is already past and cannot be affected. Besides, a disruptive rebel choosing to rebel yet again hardly disrupts expectation.
Spock's legendary status notwithstanding, I definitely suspect that Spock Secretly Bonded With a Human (Man) coming out (as it were) only confirms the idea that Spock, however Vulcan his abilities, is as fundamentally human-aligned and scandalous and as much a loose-cannon renegade as always expected. The James Dean of Vulcan strikes again, etc.
Anyway. My more specific headcanon is that ... well, this is not the sole reason Kirk learns Vulcan. He's a humanities guy, he loves languages and he's good with them, and he adores Spock and will do anything within the bounds of his ethics that he can to support whatever Spock's relationship with his culture needs to look like for him to be happy. (Spock may not call it happiness, but they both know the truth.)
And, okay, Kirk is not someone who uses "babe"/"baby" or similar types of breezy endearments with any real sincerity; he just finds them hilarious (most conspicuously in "A Piece of the Action" and "The Mantrap"). Even an unironic "sweetheart" is iffy unless it's important to the other person, I think. In his handful of spontaneous, unambiguously heartfelt romances, he turns the other person's name into an endearment just by how he says it and the look in his eyes and how he touches their hands, not through the extra step of an endearment/pet name he would find unserious.
On the other hand, if it was significant to Spock for Kirk to use deeply serious, heavily weighted Vulcan endearments (aka logical terms to describe the role one person occupies in another's life with greater clarity)? That would be different, not silly or trivializing at all, but precise and meaningful. And besides, Kirk himself is profoundly rootless apart from the Enterprise in TOS (I think this is actually really important to how the show handles him, in ways the films and thus the accumulation of quote unquote lore forgot), but Spock—whatever other Vulcans may think—is deeply grounded in Vulcan culture and identity.
Also, I imagine it would make sense in Kirk's mind for him to accommodate Vulcan norms in their relationship a bit more than Spock should accommodate human ones for Kirk, given that Spock is already being 24/7 pressured to assimilate into human norms while living in an otherwise all-human environment that's going to dominate their lives together. And there's substantial overlap between what Spock values as a Vulcan, and what he admires and recognizes beneath the surface in Kirk.
(Kirk talks bleakly about the nightmare of metaphysical separation from one's beloved preventing "the total union of two people" that is how he defines romantic love, he is visibly the most comfortable with mind-melds in "Spectre of the Gun" of the three who have to mind-meld with Spock, and his mind is so welcoming that Spock can easily enter it while Kirk sleeps and Spock no longer needs any words or usual procedure to quickly meld with him by "Turnabout Intruder." They regularly communicate pretty specific information or emotions with exchanged glances and no words, and Kirk evidently finds this stabilizing and comforting, even in early episodes like "Miri" and "Dagger of the Mind.")
But there's another thing. So many Vulcans assuming that of course Spock's scandalous bonding to a human in Starfleet is what was always in some way expected of him, an innate draw to the human rather than Vulcan path due to his mixed blood, would I suspect make it deeply satisfying in the "bitchy scheming queen bee" side of Kirk's brain to strictly adhere to Vulcan marriage norms whenever they're on Vulcan or in a Vulcan social context. He exclusively addresses Spock by name or in Vulcan (usually a very proper adun with all the emotional affect of Lt. James Kirk teaching his notorious think-or-sink philosophy course). Adding "model spouse to a Vulcan male" to his stable of variously gendered, controlled personas he can project as needed is absolutely a good time as far as Jim Kirk is concerned.
Outwardly, it might seem like Kirk makes all the accommodations and concessions within the personal relationship, the very thing Bones was so often concerned about in their friendship, long before he knew what was really going on between them—and he still worries about that, sometimes. It's not actually true, though.
#star trek #you know #you're right #kirk would get an absolute kick out of designing his new persona #and then implementing it perfectly (via @elljayvee)
Thank you! I think so, yes. I feel like... well, K/S + Vulcans sometimes gets much more caught up in Kirk-as-the-human over Kirk-as-Jim-Kirk-the-specific-individual, but both Kirk and Spock actively enjoy disrupting expectations in ways that make assholes uncomfortable and also think each other is the most perfect wonderful smart adorable noble person in existence who deserves every good thing. So I think both the trollish and supportive, affirming parts of Kirk's motives are going to get a day in the sun :D
#and let's not lie spock would find the reactions of other vulcans very funny
Yeah, I think this is a significant contributor to Kirk's maximally correct Vulcan spouse being an ongoing thing. They have quite similar strains of bitchiness but also Spock genuinely cares what Vulcan thinks of him, but also he's well beyond being ashamed of his feelings for Kirk—so I do think Kirk's readiness to accommodate and welcome what's Vulcan as well as human about him is deeply meaningful, and also the look on various childhood nemeses faces are not in accordance with the precepts of Surak, how embarrassing for them.
#jim has made t'pau's jaw muscle twitch twice
In fairness, Kirk is a massive T'Pau fanboy and within an hour of meeting him she was lying to Starfleet for him (and personally, I think she 100% knew he wasn't dead and quite possibly that he'd defied Starfleet orders in the first place to get Spock to Vulcan, hence the lying to Starfleet to protect him). So I imagine Kirk and T'Pau might well have more of a mutual admiration society in the context of all this than he does with Sarek and Amanda; he likes Amanda, but they're very different. I feel like she's internalized more actually harmful perspectives in Vulcan culture from her isolation and active attempts to assimilate than Kirk is likely to share, but also retains some of the Terran-typical patronizing perspectives on Vulcan culture at the same time, both of which powerfully affect Spock. Meanwhile T'Pau observes and is silently congratulating herself on her good judgment (in accordance with the classic Vulcan belief that smugness is not an emotion :D).
(I think Kirk pretty evidently thinks Sarek is a dick towards both Amanda and Spock, but the healing of the Spock-Sarek relationship is important to Spock so fine he will be the most unexpectedly courteous son-in-law EVER. Also he learns several Vulcan games structured intellectual pursuits specifically so Spock will have the joy of seeing him crush Sarek.)
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I wanted to share some more of these, specifically trans women of color. The images I'm posting are from a project called To Survive On This Shore and it's an interview project. I am only posting a handful so it's so worth checking out!
This is Linda, 60
Alexis, 64
Helena, 63
Kendrah, 72 (!!)
Tasha, 65
It was deeply healing to me to discover this project. The site has selected photos and attached interviews and it's definitely worth your time. I didn't include any because the focus of this post imo is transfems but there are a lot of beautiful interviews with transmasc people too if you're interested! But that'll have to be another post 💖
i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users
would be remiss not to mention that the rainbow notably straight up just removed the trans flag colors from it. like they’re gone. it’s the progress flag minus the trans flag colors.
According to the CDC, in 10 percent of those drownings, the adult will actually watch the child do it, having no idea it is happening. Drowning does not look like drowning—Dr. Pia, in an article in the Coast Guard’s On Scene magazine, described the Instinctive Drowning Response like this:
“Except in rare circumstances, drowning people are physiologically unable to call out for help. The respiratory system was designed for breathing. Speech is the secondary or overlaid function. Breathing must be fulfilled before speech occurs.
Drowning people’s mouths alternately sink below and reappear above the surface of the water. The mouths of drowning people are not above the surface of the water long enough for them to exhale, inhale, and call out for help. When the drowning people’s mouths are above the surface, they exhale and inhale quickly as their mouths start to sink below the surface of the water.
Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on the water’s surface. Pressing down on the surface of the water permits drowning people to leverage their bodies so they can lift their mouths out of the water to breathe.
Throughout the Instinctive Drowning Response, drowning people cannot voluntarily control their arm movements. Physiologically, drowning people who are struggling on the surface of the water cannot stop drowning and perform voluntary movements such as waving for help, moving toward a rescuer, or reaching out for a piece of rescue equipment.
From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with no evidence of a supporting kick. Unless rescued by a trained lifeguard, these drowning people can only struggle on the surface of the water from 20 to 60 seconds before submersion occurs.”
This doesn’t mean that a person that is yelling for help and thrashing isn’t in real trouble—they are experiencing aquatic distress. Not always present before the Instinctive Drowning Response, aquatic distress doesn’t last long—but unlike true drowning, these victims can still assist in their own rescue. They can grab lifelines, throw rings, etc.
Look for these other signs of drowning when persons are in the water:
Head low in the water, mouth at water level
Head tilted back with mouth open
Eyes glassy and empty, unable to focus
Eyes closed
Hair over forehead or eyes
Not using legs—vertical
Hyperventilating or gasping
Trying to swim in a particular direction but not making headway
Trying to roll over on the back
Appear to be climbing an invisible ladder
So if a crew member falls overboard and everything looks OK—don’t be too sure. Sometimes the most common indication that someone is drowning is that they don’t look like they’re drowning. They may just look like they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, “Are you all right?” If they can answer at all—they probably are. If they return a blank stare, you may have less than 30 seconds to get to them. And parents—children playing in the water make noise. When they get quiet, you get to them and find out why.
Can I just say thank you to OP for putting such a detailed description on this?
I’ve been a lifeguard for 6 years now and of all the saves I’ve done, maybe two or three had people drowning in the stereotypical thrashing style. And even those, like the save I made last weekend, it was exactly like OP describes where the person’s head is going in and out of the water but it isn’t long enough to get any air. Mostly you recognize drowning by the look on someone’s face. If someone looks wide eyed and terrified or confused, chances are they’re drowning. That look of “oh shit” is pretty easily recognizable. And even if you can’t tell for sure: GO AFTER THEM ANYWAY. I’ve done “saves” where a kid was pretending to drown and I mistook it for real drowning, but that’s preferable to a kid ACTUALLY drowning.
Also please remember that even strong swimmers can drown if they have a medical emergency, get cramps, or get too tired. If your friend knows how to swim but they’re acting funny get them to land. And even if someone can respond when you ask them if they need help, if they say they do need help? GO HELP THEM.
However . If the victim is a stranger, I can’t recommend trying to get them. Lifeguards literally train to escape “attacks,” because people who are drowning can freak the fuck out and grab you and make YOU drown as well. If you do go in after someone, take hold of them from the back and talk to them the whole time. IF YOU ARE GRABBED: duck down into the water as low as you can get. The person is panicking and won’t want to go under water and should release you. Shove up at their hands and push them away from you as you duck under. Don’t die trying to save someone else.
Please guys, read and memorize this post. Not all places have lifeguards. Being able to recognize drowning is such an important skill to have and you can save someone’s life.
In a water park once, I was suddenly grabbed by a child and he dragged me under the water without warning. I was going to get angry with him when I resurfaced because I thought he was being an ass, until I looked at him go back in and out hyperventilating the entire time. I grabbed him under his arms and began trying to drag him out while screaming for the lifeguard.
When the lifeguard got us both out, a woman came running down and accused me of harming him and said he had been completely fine in the water. That there was no reason to drag him out of there. The lifeguard had to explain to her that her son had been drowning, to which her response was to say that she didn’t hear him call for help.
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I love that four different people on my feed scheduled this joyous person to reblog by 8am on June 1. I look forward to seeing this a dozen more times today.
an extra special happy pride to anyone who is not out to their parents or their friends or other loved ones, to anyone who isn’t even out anywhere at all yet, online or off, and to anyone who is still questioning and figuring themselves out, who is still searching for the right words, or isn’t sure any fit. this month is for you too
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The “do you want to know how it feels, holding the cup?” is genuinely such a fucking cunty comment and all Shane does is throw his underwear at Ilya and then grin like he’s so proud of himself.
What I’m saying is this, sometimes Ilya will say something to Shane in front of the Centaurs that makes the whole locker room freeze up because if they said that shit to their own partners, they would be in the doghouse for months. But Shane will just shove Ilya or punch him in the shoulder and then they grin at each other like it was the funniest shit ever.
They learn the hard way that although there seems to be no boundry to what Ilya can chirp Shane with, the same does not apply to anyone else. If anyone makes a comment to Shane that is deemed not appropriately playful, you will be facing the wrath of his husband and you will wish you were dead.
Stopping point if you find yourself on your phone doomscrolling, procrastinating, or “stuck”
You can move to scroll in another space (if you haven’t gotten out of bed yet, move to the couch; if you haven’t left the house yet, you can sit outside)
You can make your current space more pleasant to scroll in (if it’s not possible to move spaces, open a window or light a candle in your space)
You can scroll while taking care of your body (change into clean clothes, scroll while brushing your teeth or washing your face, scroll while drinking water or having a snack)
You can stay on social media but avoid depressing or mindless content (try searching for fun facts, hobbies you’re interested in, or good news)
Hard mode: try just making the switch on your phone from short-form to long-form content (from dozens of short posts to an article, a fanfic, or an ebook; from TikToks/Reels/Shorts to a interesting or fun YouTube video, podcast, audiobook, or film) — this can be the first step in transitioning out of being “stuck,” because you can, for example, go on a walk while listening to an audiobook, fold clothes while watching a video, etc.
Expert mode: Set a timer for one minute and put down your phone. Do anything else. (Take deep breaths, go get a drink, pick up a book or craft.) If you can do this, aspire to two or five minutes and keep increasing your time away from scrolling. (Use your phone to play music, a podcast, or an audiobook if this prevents you from picking it up again)
Good luck! I hope you were able to make your scrolling a touch more cheerful today!
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